“Just Be Yourself” Is Terrible Advice — Here’s Why

What if the phrase “just be yourself” is actually keeping you stuck?

In this punchy, no-nonsense episode, Al Kenny and Bilos take a sledgehammer to one of the most common clichés in the self-help world. Far from being liberating, the advice to “just be yourself” often reinforces a fixed identity — the version of you shaped by past experiences, cultural conditioning, and subconscious fear.

But what if who you think you are… isn’t who you really are?

And what if that idea of “self” is the very thing limiting your growth, creativity, and peace?

This episode is an honest, energetic dismantling of the self-concept. It invites you to drop the identity trap, get curious, and experience life with fresh eyes — not through performance or persona, but presence.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. Why “just be yourself” can reinforce outdated roles and emotional baggage
2. How identity forms — and why letting it go creates space for real transformation
3. The difference between performing your truth and living from it
4. How the “self” is often a stitched-together survival strategy, not your true essence
5. A radical shift in how to relate to yourself — one that invites lightness, fluidity, and possibility

“Who are you when you’re not trying to be someone?” – Al Kenny

🧠 Try This:

• 🌀 Journal Prompt: In what areas of my life am I trying to be someone rather than feel something?
• 🎧 Pause & Ask: Am I showing up from presence or from programming?
• 💬 Self-Check: Am I clinging to an idea of me — or listening to what’s real now?

🎯 This Episode Is For You If:

• You’ve outgrown your old identity but feel unsure who you are now
• You’re tired of “just be yourself” advice that feels vague and unhelpful
• You’re craving clarity, lightness, and a deeper sense of freedom
• You’re curious about how self-image and ego shape your reality

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