The Art of We 113. How Specific Agreements Create Deep Personal Healing in Relationships
In this episode, we explore how small yet intentional agreements can help heal deep relational wounds and foster secure, connected partnerships. We share our personal experiences with one of our core relationship agreements and how it has transformed our injuries from the past. Through this lens, we invite listeners to reflect on your own insecurities and explore how agreements can be a powerful tool for healing, trust, and deeper intimacy.
“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer
(00:00) Introduction: How small agreements can heal deep relational wounds
(02:23) The power of secure functioning: Why this agreement matters
(03:39) Will’s experience: Healing past wounds through loving “hellos”
(06:23) The importance of eye contact and intentional connection when reuniting
(06:53) Krista’s experience: The impact of past loss and saying “goodbye with care”
(08:29) How practicing intentional goodbyes builds trust and security
(09:36) Where do insecurities show up in your relationship? A reflection for listeners
(10:42) Identifying personal wounds and creating agreements to heal them
(12:58) Balancing personal preferences and mutual care in a partnership
(14:51) Final reflections: The impact of small actions on long-term intimacy
(15:21) Closing thoughts: Inviting listeners to explore new agreements
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