Why You’re Looking for Happiness in the Wrong Places

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Jan 5, 2025

Explore the illusion that happiness is tied to future achievements rather than appreciating the present moment. Discover the concept of the 'arrival fallacy' and how it shapes our perspective on fulfillment. Through guided meditation, reflect on finding joy in the journey instead of just the destinations. Hear personal stories emphasizing mindfulness and the beauty of everyday moments. Learn to cherish incremental progress and recognize that true happiness resides in the here and now.

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Arrival Fallacy

The illusion of future happiness after achieving goals is a common misconception.
True happiness comes from enjoying the present moment and the journey itself.

ANECDOTE

Chasing Peaks

Jade shares her personal experience of constantly chasing new goals, like academic success and YouTube subscribers.
She emphasizes the importance of appreciating the process and the present moment.

ANECDOTE

Joy in Learning

Jade shares her experience of learning German, initially wanting instant fluency but then finding joy in the process.
She highlights the unexpected fulfillment of enjoying the journey itself.

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Hello friends, welcome back to the twelfth episode of ✨ Finding your Casual Magic ✨ (Happy New Year!!!)

Learn with Lingoda: 10% off + 45 free classes with code NEWYEARMAGIC: https://try.lingoda.com/NewYearMagic [ad] (all thoughts are my own and I GENUINELY can't recommend Lingoda enough!!) Have you ever caught yourself saying, oh, I'll be happy when I have the perfect partner and I'm no longer single? When I finally quit the job and I'm in my dream career, when I go on my dream holiday, or when climate change is solved and no one's suffering in the world anymore? When have you reached a goal but felt unfulfilled shortly after? Have you ever caught yourself thinking that when you cross that finish line everything will fall into place, only to realise that there's a new race ahead? I really hope today's episode re inspires you to realise that today is a gift. Your life is a gift, and your life is actually pretty amazing right now as it is. Today we're looking at something that I'm so passionate about. The illusion that our lives will feel better in the future after some vague outcome or life event, when the truth is you will carry the feelings that you have about yourself and your life now into whatever destination you're trying to get to. I'm going to walk you through a visualisation to help you really feel the deeper messages of today's episode and this idea of the arrival fallacy, which is when we think that upon achieving our goals, we'll finally attain all the happiness we desire, when in reality, a lot of the time the goalpost just changes. I'm also going to tell you about some of the happiest people that I've ever met and how generally the source of their happiness is being content with the now exactly as they are, with exactly everything that they have. The episode closes with my ‘Casual Magic of the Week’ and we hear from Marlene who shares their Casual Magic followed by intention setting for the week ahead. Timestamps: 00:00 - 01:30 Introduction: What is Casual Magic?

01:31 - 03:30 The Arrival Fallacy: Happiness Isn't a Destination

03:31 - 06:30 Guided Meditation: Finding Presence in the Now

06:31 - 08:30 Visualisation: The Mountain Climb and the Joy of the Journey

08:31 - 13:00 Learning to Appreciate the Trail: Jade's Personal Reflections

13:01 - 18:00 Finding Joy in Language Learning: Jade's German Journey

18:01 - 20:30 Lingoda and the Joy of Process-Oriented Learning

20:31 - 26:30 Overcoming the Arrival Fallacy: Academic Peaks and Personal Growth

26:31 - 31:30 The Psychology of Goal-Driven Happiness: Impact Bias and Hedonic Treadmill

31:31 - 35:00 Imposter Syndrome and Neglecting the Process

35:01 - 40:00 The Happiest People Jade Knows: Stories of Contentment and Gratitude

40:01 - 45:00 Daily Turning Points: Cultivating Casual Magic in Everyday Life

45:01 - 50:00 Reflections and Journal Prompts: Finding Gratitude in the Now

50:01 - 53:00 Jade’s Casual Magic of the Week

53:01 - 53:33 Listener's Casual Magic of the Week

53:37 - 55:51 Weekly Reflection and Intentions: Setting the Tone for the New Year If you’d like to be featured as the Casual Magic of the week: 💌 Notice a moment of casual magic in your week. What was something beautiful in your daily life? A special moment or reflection? 💌 DM us a ~60 second voice message or video to @casualmagicpodcast on instagram or email it to findingyourcasualmagic@gmail.com — feel free to include any pictures of your casual magic if you have any!! 💌 Start the voicenote by introducing yourself and where you’re from!! 💌 Tell us in your DM / email if you want to be tagged if chosen. 💌 We’ll pick one a week to share in the podcast and on here so we can all participate in your joy!! CONTACT ME Business Enquiries: unjadedjade@sixteenth.com Instagram - @unjadedjade TikTok: @unjadedjade Finding Your Casual Magic with UnJaded Jade Produced by The Podcast Guys Theme music by Francesca Lu For more Finding Your Casual Magic, go to @casualmagicpodcast on Instagram!!