Jack Neel Podcast Sex Expert: “It’s All Fake!” The Truth About Intimacy, Desire, and Connection
Oct 29, 2025
Sterling Cooper, a former adult-film performer and now a sex, attraction, and seduction coach, shares provocative insights on intimacy and desire. He discusses the stark pay disparities between male and female performers and sheds light on the darker sides of the porn industry, including mental health issues. Sterling emphasizes that many men seek emotional connection over mere explicit content. He also advises men on their roles in relationships, advocating decisiveness and leadership to enhance attraction and diminish anxiety.
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From Chemist To Adult Performer
- Sterling Cooper left a chemistry career and a paleo meal business after seeking travel and relationships with attractive women.
- He intentionally reverse-engineered a path into adult film work to get paid for that lifestyle.
Money Reality In Porn
- Sterling made about $270,000 across roughly five years and over 400 scenes.
- Male performers earn a flat rate while female performers often make roughly double and scale by popularity.
Porn Is A Data-Driven Funnel Business
- A few conglomerates own most major free and paid adult sites and control traffic funnels.
- They convert vast free traffic into paid customers by owning the full distribution and data pipeline.
