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Sep 11, 2025
The discussion delves into why AI companions are becoming popular for emotional support, especially among men. It highlights the significance of attunement for regulating the nervous system and addressing complex trauma. Listeners hear about the importance of male friendships, emphasizing the essentials of safety and support. There's practical advice on managing friendships, particularly when someone disappears. Finally, the conversation reinforces that building emotional connections—both online and offline—is vital for mental health.
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Emotional Offloading To AI Is Risky
- Scott Cone warns of "emotional offloading" to AI chatbots that teens and adults use for companionship and comfort.
- He finds this dangerous because machines can't truly attune to bodily states and regulate a human nervous system.
Regulate, Relate, Then Reason
- Regulate before you try to solve someone's problem: calm their body and mirror cues to bring them into their prefrontal cortex.
- Then relate emotionally, and only after that, reason and offer solutions.
Trauma Lives In The Body
- Complex trauma is stored in the body, limbic system, and brainstem rather than in cognitive memory.
- Therefore healing must start somatically by regulating the body before cognitive therapies can work.