Why Old-School Manners Still Open Doors in the Modern World

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Jul 2, 2025

Ethan Hagner, son of Larry Hagner, opens up about the value of old-school manners in today’s fast-paced world. He shares his eye-opening experience of securing a summer job through personal interactions instead of online applications. The conversation highlights how empathy, character-building, and simple gestures like thank-you notes can make a significant impact in both careers and personal lives. Ethan also discusses lessons learned from shadowing firefighters, emphasizing the importance of staying calm under pressure and being present in challenging situations.

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Old-School Manners Open Doors

Old-school manners like face-to-face interaction build character and open doors in life.
Direct communication and intentional actions distinguish people in personal and professional realms.

ANECDOTE

Ethan's Firefighter Shadowing

Ethan shadowed firefighters and learned what their daily life entails, including the intense realities they face.
This experience prepared him mentally for his future career and the challenges it will bring.

INSIGHT

Empathy as a Superpower

Empathy is a powerful skill that calms others and provides support during crises.
Developing empathy prepares one to handle dark and difficult human experiences with compassion.

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Have you ever asked yourself:

When was the last time I stepped outside my comfort zone?
How do I make sure I’m intentionally setting a positive example for my kids?
Am I encouraging my children to take extra steps?

In an era dominated by online interactions and instant applications, it’s easy to think that old-fashioned manners and direct communication have become obsolete. But as this episode of The Dad Edge reveals, those little “extra” steps are exactly what set people apart—in job interviews, difficult situations, and life in general

Today, Ethan Hagner recounts his journey to land a summer job—not just sending in online applications, but suiting up, showing up in person, introducing himself, and even dropping off a thank-you note after a surprise interview.

As Larry points out, these simple, direct actions are the "gold" from previous generations—habits that build character and open doors

Ethan Hagner also teases out how small acts of empathy and presence, learned in everyday family life, are already preparing him for bigger moments—like shadowing firefighters and helping his injured dad.

The episode underscores the importance of empathy, remaining calm under pressure, and showing up wholeheartedly—in family crises, career moments, and daily interactions. As Larry puts it, “Control the controllables”—focus on what you can do, and do it with intention.

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In this vital episode, we dig into:

Old-School Gold for the Next Generation: Larry reflects on the lost art of face-to-face interactions, handshakes, and eye contact, and how these “little” things are game-changers in both personal and professional life. Ethan chimes in with stories from his own journey, showing just how powerful simple, intentional actions can be.
Handling Life’s Dark and Difficult Moments: Ethan opens up about shadowing at the local fire department and preparing to face tough situations as a future firefighter. With honest talk about nervousness and empathy, the guys highlight how staying calm, focused, and supportive in chaos is a true superpower. Larry recounts a recent accident and how Ethan’s steady approach driving him to the hospital—in the middle of nowhere, no cell signal, potholes galore—proved his grit and composure.
Bringing Back Legendary Manners: There’s a clear call to action here: Dads, let’s teach (and model) the old-school habits that make a difference—shaking hands, making eye contact, showing up, following through, and, yes, even thank you notes. These are the moves that open doors and build relationships for life.

This episode offers powerful stories, practical advice, and the reminder to always lead by example. Get ready for insights and encouragement to help you create the legacy you want for your family.