ask a sub 131. Ugly Sex with Margeaux Feldman AKA Softcore Trauma
Aug 30, 2025
Margeaux Feldman explores the intriguing concept of 'ugly sex' and its uncomfortable yet authentic nuances in sexual experiences. The discussion challenges the glamorized narratives of empowerment in feminism, emphasizing the beauty of embracing messy intimacy. Listeners will learn about the significance of queer identities and the liberating aspects of unconventional sexual expression. The podcast highlights how accepting imperfection can lead to deeper connections, particularly in kink communities, inviting a judgment-free exploration of desires.
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Early Ugly Sex And Mixed Feelings
- Margeaux describes having “ugly sex” beginning at 14 with messy, pleasurable, and repulsive elements mixed together.
- They explain this sex offered limited intimacy they could handle amidst trauma and social judgment.
Reframing Messy Desire As Valid
- Margeaux reframes sex that mixes desire and repulsion as valid rather than pathologized bad sex.
- This opens space to imagine new, nonjudgmental forms of intimacy beyond feminist perfectionism.
Context Trumps Moralizing Sex
- Lina links kink theory to treating sexuality as neutral while focusing on context and consent.
- Margeaux urges not to judge practices that give pleasure and don't harm others, invoking "don't yuck my yum."
