Building a Lasting Legacy: Insights from Garrett Unclebach on Becoming a Great Husband and Father with Faith, Purpose, and Resilience
Jan 1, 2024
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Garrett Unclebach, a father, husband, SEAL Veteran, and podcast host, shares insights on becoming a great husband and father. He emphasizes the importance of thinking beyond oneself and raising children as a lasting legacy. The podcast covers topics such as finding purpose, overcoming challenges, teaching grit to children, and finding strength in weakness. It also explores the significance of embracing one's identity as a son of God and shaping the identity of their own sons.
Legacy is not about money or power, but a way of thinking that focuses on raising children and leaving a lasting impact.
Resilience and belief in fulfilling one's purpose are crucial in achieving success, and they go hand in hand.
Biblical masculinity involves sacrificial love, servant leadership, and guiding children to fulfill their unique destinies.
Deep dives
Transitioning from the military and finding purpose
When Garrett left the military, he went through a transition program and sought mentors for guidance. He focused on being faithful with the opportunities given to him and discovered a desire to work for himself. He embraced the idea of stewardship, being faithful with what God had given him, and pursued new opportunities. He recognized the importance of seeking God's plan for his life and following his heart's desires, even if they seemed audacious.
Building resilience and maintaining focus
Garrett emphasized the value of resilience and belief in fulfilling one's purpose. He shared his experience in SEAL training, where resilience was tested and the belief in a transcendent cause was crucial. He stressed the importance of purpose and potential, deriving from the belief that God has a plan and that one can achieve anything with determination and hard work. He encouraged men to focus on being faithful with what God has given them and to pursue their purpose, understanding that resilience and focus often go hand in hand.
Creating a higher standard in men's groups
Garrett acknowledged that many men's groups in churches often fall short in creating a higher standard. He emphasized the need for men to bear good fruit and to live out the teachings of the Bible, rather than merely saying they are Christian. He urged leaders to model the desired standard and called for men to be challenged and accountable. Garrett shared the importance of setting goals, seeking help, and being willing to grow in faith. He acknowledged that church culture can sometimes be misaligned, but stressed the importance of exemplifying biblical masculinity and living a life that reflects God's greatness.
Navigating identity after leaving the military
Garrett shared his experience of leaving the military and acknowledged the challenge of finding identity and purpose in a new season of life. He emphasized the importance of asking for help, being vulnerable, and pursuing new opportunities. Garrett encouraged men to focus on being faithful with what they have and to recognize that God has greater plans in store. He encouraged men to embrace the journey of growth and to rely on God's guidance and purpose for their lives.
Biblical Masculinity: Loving Like Christ
Biblical masculinity is defined by loving your wife the way Christ loved the church, which means being willing to sacrifice and pay any price necessary. It involves being a leader, a standard-bearer, and a protector for your family. Men are called to be price-payers and committed to fulfilling God's purpose for their lives. Biblical masculinity is about sowing seeds into the future and being fruitful in all aspects of life. It also includes serving others, taking dominion, and being willing to multiply and lead others. Biblical masculinity is not about external factors like physical strength or wealth, but about embodying the character of Christ and operating with humility, love, and service.
Identity, Purpose, and Fatherhood
Parenting, especially fatherhood, plays a crucial role in shaping biblical masculinity. Fathers have the responsibility to teach their children about their unique giftings and callings, helping them understand their identities and purpose. They should model servant leadership and a strong relationship with God. By creating an environment where children can learn grit and dealing with hardship, fathers can teach them to give their best in life and develop resilience. Additionally, fathers should speak life and positive identity statements over their children, helping them understand their family's values and the importance of walking in their God-given purpose. Overall, fathers play a vital role in cultivating biblical masculinity in their children and guiding them to fulfill their destinies.
How to become a great husband and father for your family? A lot of men struggle to be the ones they want to be, having a hard time developing themselves. This affects their relationship with their partners and their children, only leading to disappointment. If men started to think not just for themselves but also for others, especially their families, it would be their driving factor to go beyond their limits and lead a greater life. Together with faith in God, nothing is impossible!
Garrett Unclebach is a father, husband, SEAL Veteran, podcast host, director of the Men's Ministry at their church, and owner of multiple businesses. Today, Garret shares his life experiences of how he grew up in a loving family, finding his purpose in life, parenting advice, biblical masculinity, and more. Tune in as men ask questions about parenting, leadership, and business.
Quotes:
“By doing anything in my life that lasts for 1000 years, I plan to do many big things in my life. The most important thing I'll do is raise children. To me, that's what legacy is. Legacy is not money. Legacy is not power. Legacy is a way of thinking.” – Garrett Unclebach
“From the time I was five, my dad took me wherever he was. In our men's group on Saturday, I'm speaking to grown men. But I tell you, if your son can sit still, bring him on. He's not going to understand anything I say. What matters is that he sees what's important to you.” – Garrett Unclebach
“To go beyond yourself to lead yourself requires a cause that's more important than you. If you want to live a great life, make it about other people. You want to live a miserable life, make it about you.” – Garrett Unclebach
Takeaways:
In contrast to people who think that legacy equals power or money, leaving your legacy is about giving out your way of thinking to others, and then it would multiply. Thus, focus on how people will remember you by your mindset, thought processing, and attitude. And the best way to do it is to raise your children with proper love and attention.
Resilience is based on beliefs. On the other hand, Delusion is based on pride. To build resilience, you need purpose and potential. Having these two things will give you the capability to go out in the world and do whatever God puts you on earth to do.
Soldiers don’t fight for money; they risk their lives for the sake of other people, and that’s how they become heroes. Similarly, men who want to go beyond themselves need to find a reason that is more important than them. So, rather than quitting because you feel you can’t take it anymore, go forward because of your family, friends, and all the people you love.
Conclusion:
Leaving a lasting legacy isn't about wealth or power. It's about passing on your mindset, values, and love. Resilience is born from beliefs, not delusion or pride. To thrive, you need purpose and potential. They're your tickets to fulfilling your purpose on this Earth. When the going gets tough, remember the people you love and the purpose that keeps you moving forward. Lastly, remember that you have a purpose in life. God is always here to guide us. Follow his voice, let him help you, and achieve an enjoyable life with your family!
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