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The Rising Leader

How Judgment and Jealousy Can Improve Your Leadership Skills

Jan 29, 2025
09:27


You’ve probably heard me say a million times that when I feel resentment, it’s a sign of something more profound. Maybe it means I haven’t set a boundary, I haven’t asked for something I want, or maybe, just maybe, I’m jealous. In this episode of The Rising Leader, I dive deep into the goldmine hidden in our feelings of resentment and harsh judgment. By examining our emotions and reactions, we can uncover valuable insights about our unmet needs and desires. Whether dealing with colleagues at work or frustrations on the road, there’s always something to learn from the negative feelings we harbor.

This week’s episode features insights from an executive coaching session. The client, a brilliant leader, stayed up until 2:00 AM fixing reports from his team, while another leader in the organization had no such issues. We peel back the layers of jealousy and resentment to reveal lessons in leadership and accountability. Without swinging to extremes, we explore how even the most negative judgments can be turned into self-reflective gold.

“Resentment can be a beacon pointing us towards what we truly desire or lack in our lives.”

~Mark Silverman

This week on The Rising Leader:

·     How resentment reveals unmet needs

·     The importance of setting boundaries

·     Transforming jealousy into self-improvement

·     A coaching case study on leadership and report handling

·     The power of accountability in leadership

·     Using negative judgments as positive learning tools

·     Venting frustrations: Road rage as a reflection of inner desires

·     Expanding personal and professional range through self-reflection

Resources Mentioned:

“Lead From the Heart: Transformational Leadership for The 21st Century” by Mark C. Crowley

“Radical Candor: Fully Revised & Updated Edition: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity” by Kim Scott

 

 

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