When "compliance" does more harm than good (with ADHD and Autism)

"Behavior management" approaches are often used with kids who have diagnoses of ADHD, autism. Usually these approaches focus on giving rewards for good behavior and punishing "bad" behavior. They're prevalent in therapy settings, schools, and home environments across the nation. I've even used some of these approaches in my practice. But in recent years, I've changed my philosophy after reflecting on my own experiences being on the receiving end of such techniques. I've also started to listen more to other neurodivergent voices who are reporting the trauma they've experienced throughout their lifetimes after being repeatedly punished and shamed for behaviors associated with neurological differences beyond their control. 

This episode is the first in a three part series about common problems with ADHD and Autism interventions, and the shifts we need to make as a result. In this first episode, I talk about the problem with behavioral approaches that insist children comply with certain demands for the sake of "good behavior".

Specifically, I share:
✅Why commonly practiced behavior management systems cause trauma in kids with ADHD, autism, or other diagnoses of neurological origin.
✅How rewarding "good behavior" can appear effective in the short-term, but can be ineffective and counterproductive in the long-term.  ✅Why we shouldn't punish "bad" behaviors, and what to do instead to help kids be successful and independent in the long run.

In this episode, I mentioned the Time Tracking Journal, which is a SIMPLE tool that will help you get through daily routines (like homework) with ease, without bribery, arguments, or constant hand-holding.  The Time Tracking Journal walks you through a strategy you can do in just 10-15 minutes a day that will help kids get tasks done effectively and efficiently, and critical thinking skills and self-confidence at the same time. You can learn how to get instant access here: https://drkarendudekbrannan.com/timejournal The De Facto Leaders podcast was formerly the “Are they 18 yet?®” podcast. As of November 2022, the name of the show has changed, and we’ve shifted from a focus on parenting to a focus on supporting clinicians and educators to design effective services for kids (but parents are still welcome to listen). Episodes published before November 24, 2022 will still contain some of our old branding. 

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