Loneliness is a universal experience, affecting individuals differently across the lifespan. The speakers highlight the human need for connection and its ties to well-being. They explore how narratives, like those in 'Buffy, the Vampire Slayer,' illustrate isolation's psychological impact. The dark side of loneliness is examined, particularly concerning destructive ideologies in the incel community. Additionally, a fascinating dream is analyzed, reflecting themes of motherhood and personal growth. The discussion emphasizes that loneliness can inspire self-discovery and meaningful relationships.
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Loneliness: Complex Human Need
Loneliness is a complex, multifaceted experience including feelings of desperation, depression, and alienation.
Basic human contact is as vital as food and shelter for psychological wellbeing.
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Loneliness Distorts Reality
Loneliness distorts reality, leading to feelings of unworthiness and fear of rejection.
This stress can create a defensive withdrawal, making connection harder despite the need.
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Depression vs Loneliness Contrast
Depression and loneliness differ: depression often leads to isolation without desire for connection.
Loneliness involves a desperate outreach for connection, signaling a fundamental social need.
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Loneliness is a deeply human and universal experience. Lisa, Joseph and Deb examine it from multiple perspectives: as it may be experienced in young adulthood versus older years; as reflective of the need for attachment and relational security; as comparable to the alchemical metaphors of calcinatio and solutio; as a call to activation in outer and inner worlds; and as a psychologically toxic phenomenon.
The dream:
I dreamt I was haphazardly packing up my family’s things after a stay at a friend’s house. In the bathroom I find I have my period and have bled through all my cloth pads. My underwear in soaked and bright red. I am overwhelmed by the color and amount of blood. Could I use their washing machine, I wonder? After some thought I decide to make a pad with toilet paper. Then I head upstairs looking for my husband and kids.
Going up I remember that we considered buying this house once but decided it was too big and needed too much work. It’s beautiful now. I go upstairs to the attic. There are deep rich rugs and walls in browns and reds, quiet tables and chairs. It feels good. High ceilings, 30 feet, but the space is still warm and encompassing. My family is here. I see the kids' bunk bed to the left. In front of me is a huge window with a view of an enormous maple tree in full red color. It is astonishing, such beauty, leaves rustling. Talking with my husband I recall how when we last saw this place it was derelict, holes in the roof, floor boards missing, pipes exposed. A real mess. The transformation is incredible. I think of the work and expense it was to bring those windows up! I love this place.
To the left there is another huge window split in three sections and shows a long view across plains to distant mountains. We are shockingly high. The view is beautiful but suddenly I fee dizzy. I am afraid of heights and need to sit down. My son is fooling around near the windows. I tell myself he’s fine but I am still afraid. Are the windows sound? I tell myself he’ll be fine, my husband is with him, but can’t tolerate the feeling. I head for the stairs down.
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