Sage Family 91: Declarative Language with Linda Murphy
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Oct 17, 2023 
Linda Murphy, a speech-language pathologist and RDI consultant, explores the transformative power of declarative language. She discusses the shift from command-based communication to a more positive, partnership-focused approach. Topics include the benefits of reducing conflict and enhancing self-advocacy through declaratives. Linda provides practical examples for inviting cooperation and fostering authentic connections without demands. She highlights the importance of pacing, acknowledging mistakes, and utilizing playful language to enhance learning and resilience.
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Language Shapes Relationship Dynamics
- Declarative language shifts interactions from demands to connection and partnership.
- It reduces stress by removing time pressure and power struggles in the moment.
Guide With Observations Not Questions
- Use comments like “I notice…” to guide instead of asking kids to answer demands.
- Offer to do tasks together or state what you'll do to reduce pressure and increase cooperation.
Invite Attention, Don't Demand Eye Contact
- Announce important visual information and invite attention when they're ready.
- Say things like “I have something to show you when you're ready” and give processing time.
