Yellow Flags in a Therapist

Jun 14, 2025

Kirsten Walters, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in ADHD and neurodiversity, dives into the subtle 'yellow flags' and glaring red flags in therapy. She discusses how long-term therapy without progress can be problematic and stresses the importance of empowering clients. Kirsten warns against therapists who blur boundaries, offer unverified medical advice, or minimize feelings. They also explore the necessity for therapists to maintain cultural humility, focus on client needs, and encourage facing difficult issues head-on.

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ADVICE

Check Therapy Goals Regularly

Ask your therapist about treatment goals and progress regularly.
If they never check goals, discuss it or consider a new clinician.

INSIGHT

Relationship Is The Core Mechanism

The therapeutic relationship drives most of therapy's effectiveness.
Interventions matter, but the relationship accounts for a larger share of outcomes.

ADVICE

Use A Short Consult To Assess Fit

Do a brief consult call or phone chat before committing to a therapist.
Use that 10-minute vibe check to assess safety and fit.

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Every therapist upholds the professional and ethical standards required in their role. Knowing what signs to look for can help you protect your mental health and ensure you receive the care you deserve. In this video, we’ll discuss the subtle yellow flags in therapy—small warning signs that something might be off—as well as the more obvious red flags, which may indicate your therapist is not just a poor fit but could be acting unethically. We’ll also cover strategies for deciding if it’s time to change therapists and how to begin that transition smoothly.

By being informed about both the subtle yellow flags and the more glaring red flags, you can better protect yourself and maintain a high standard of care.

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