r/AITA UPDATE Fiance's Mother Tried To Give Me A Gift, I Refused As It's Against My Principles
Jan 3, 2022
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Op turns down a gift from her fiance's mother, causing offense. Op seeks advice and decides to accept the gift, finding resolution. A moral dilemma arises over whether to have a teenage boy arrested. The narrator deals with trespassing kids on a rooftop garden. A listener uninvites their brother from their wedding after a cruel joke.
Refusing an expensive gift to maintain financial independence and avoid being perceived as a gold digger can create conflict in family relationships.
Shaming a flaky friend publicly as a last resort intervention can lead to division in friend groups and be seen as cruel and uncaring.
Deep dives
Friendship turned sour due to flakiness and health issues
The poster confronts a flaky friend in a public and humiliating way, creating a scrapbook of screenshots to shame her. They claim it was a last resort intervention since private conversations didn't work. People in the friend group are divided on whether the poster is the asshole or not, but many believe their actions were cruel and uncaring towards their friend who is likely dealing with health issues.
Refusing lavish gift to maintain financial independence
In this story, the narrator discusses their refusal to accept an expensive gift from their future mother-in-law. The narrator wants to maintain their financial independence and not be perceived as a gold digger. There is a disagreement between the narrator and their fiancé who believes they should have accepted the gift to make his mother happy.
Confronting a sibling who played a hurtful joke
The narrator recounts how their sibling played a hurtful prank by sending a text pretending to be the narrator announcing a pregnancy. The narrator is upset by the prank, especially considering their struggles with infertility. They uninvite their sibling from the wedding and their parents disagree with this decision.
Calling out a flaky friend in a public and elaborate way
The narrator's friend has become increasingly flaky and often cancels plans at the last minute. The friend group suspects she may be dealing with anxiety or depression but private conversations haven't helped. In a drastic move, the narrator creates a scrapbook of screenshots to shame their friend, resulting in tears and anger.
r/AITA in todays am I the a**hole stories, op is getting married soon and before the wedding OP's mother-in-law approaches OP to offer her a gift to welcome her into the family. OP turns it down as it's against her principles to accept a gift when she can't give anything in return. This offends the family. This story follows with an update.