#80 John Lovell - How a 75th Ranger Built One of the Biggest Tactical Training Networks | Part 3
Oct 25, 2023
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Former Army Ranger John Lovell discusses his transition into civilian life and the origins of the successful Warrior Poet Society. Topics covered include mental preparation in military missions, honoring fallen friends, leadership lessons, challenges in early marriage, and the importance of freedom.
Finding a new mission and building new relationships are crucial for a successful transition to civilian life after leaving the military.
Recognizing and combating the tendency to criticize others helps in fostering healthier relationships and personal growth.
Being a warrior and a poet are not mutually exclusive, but rather complement each other to create a fulfilling and meaningful life.
Deep dives
Transitioning to Civilian Life
After leaving the military, the speaker emphasizes the importance of finding a new mission and a new band of brothers. He advises against dwelling on the past and comparing civilians to his former Ranger comrades. He acknowledges that civilians may have their own strengths and weaknesses and encourages a mindset of improvising, adapting, and overcoming challenges.
Challenges of Reintegration
The speaker discusses the challenges he faced when reintegrating into civilian life, including the frustration with bureaucracy and having to adapt to a different way of communicating with civilians. He emphasizes the importance of learning to communicate with his wife and understanding the ways in which they both needed to grow in order to have a successful marriage. He also acknowledges the need to find a new mission and build new relationships in order to avoid succumbing to the negative effects of post-military life.
Human Nature and Criticism
The speaker reflects on the tendency for humans, including military personnel, to focus on criticizing others rather than recognizing their strengths. He attributes this tendency to human pride and ego, which often seeks to build oneself up by tearing others down. He highlights the importance of recognizing and combating this tendency in order to foster healthier relationships and personal growth.
Finding Love and Marriage
The speaker discusses the journey of finding love and getting married. He shares his experiences of searching for a wife, the challenges encountered, and the realization that his expectations were not high enough. Eventually, he meets his wife at church, and their relationship evolves to marriage in a short period of time. The speaker emphasizes the importance of continuously dating your spouse and prioritizing the love for Jesus in order to have a successful and fulfilling marriage.
Balancing Warrior and Poet
The speaker shares his personal philosophy of being both a warrior and a poet. He believes that a man should embody both strength and fierceness, as well as tenderness and emotional availability. The speaker highlights the importance of being a good protector while also nurturing relationships and appreciating beauty. He explains that being a warrior and a poet are not mutually exclusive, but rather complement each other to create a fulfilling and meaningful life.
John Lovell is a former Army Ranger turned creator, homesteader and best-selling author. Lovell is the founder of the Warrior Poet Society, a values-based community geared towards training, preparedness, and spirituality.
Part three of this four part series is all about the closing of Lovell's career as an Army Ranger and his transition into civilian life. Lovell outlines his early days in business and the beginning of his marriage and how to build a strong foundation in a relationship. We also learn about the origins of the "Warrior Poet Society," Lovell's now ultra-successful online community.