Drop your standards! Let go of your perfectionistic tendencies!
If I were paid a dollar every time I heard this message, I would have a large bank account by now.
When you’re pursuing a top performance – from athletic to intellectual to artistic ones – it’s fundamental that you distinguish those common principles that improve your performance and your well-being altogether.
In this episode, Brad Stulberg and I discussed research-based skills to deal with high-achieving and striving behaviors in a skillful manner and without losing yourself.
Key Takeaways
- How to distinguish when perfectionistic actions are working for you or against you
- The difference between values-based goals and ego-driven goals
- How to avoid burnout in the information era
- How to manage your proneness to perfectionistic actions
- Day-to-day experiences of experiential avoidance
- Tips to handle the fear of failure
- How to figure out what is on the other side of your fears
- How to practice self-compassion when handling our fears
Show notes with time stamps
00:31 Understanding Fear-Based Reactions
01:02 Overcoming Perfectionism
01:36 Interview with Brad Stulberg: High Achieving and Striving Behaviors
02:19 Reflecting on Your Life and Overcoming Overthinking
03:28 Living According to Your Values
04:10 Using a Values-Based Review to Live the Life You Want
04:46 Conversation with Brad Stulberg: Balancing Productivity and Wellbeing
05:43 Understanding the Double-Edged Sword of Optimization
08:44 Dealing with Fear of Failure and Regret
17:48 Navigating Ego-Driven Goals and Values-Based Goals
24:09 Overcoming Experiential Avoidance
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