Is THIS Love Bombing (or are they just genuinely interested in you) 5 Tips to Tell

How do you know if its "love bombing" or not?

Really this question comes down to an issue of boundaries and of perception.

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It seems to be asking "Can I trust others?" but the real question is "Can I trust myself to make good judgement calls".

Love bombing is a term from cult psychology. It's the practise of having the cult members bomb the new recruit with love, so they feel like the cult is a kind of heaven of earth. Once they have been bonded to the cult, its members and its leader the "love bombing" stops abruptly leaving the newcomer wondering what they did wrong and trying to figure out how to fix the relationship.

Similarly, on a micro level between two people (a narcissist is a cult of one, they are both leader and god head) some people use the term "love bombing" to describe the early phases of the narcissistic relationship dance.

Personally I find the term a bit excessive and jargonistic, so I don't use it much. But this podcast explains what this "idealisation" phase looks like and how to differentiate

(00:04) Starting Today's Topic

(01:20) #1 Are You Boundaried and Adult? (House Metaphor)

(06:44) #2 How Does the Questioning Make You Feel?

(11:25) #3 What Happens When You Set a Boundary or Say No? (+ Don't Overshare)

(15:11) Oversharing on a First Date

(19:28) #4 How Anxious Does Dating Makes You Feel? (Check-in)

(25:05) #5 Emotional Literacy Test

(28:40) A Note on How the Question Look Like Outside, Richard on Vice Mocking Documentary

(32:49) Trust Yourself and Grow Up

(41:01) Dating Advice, Boundried Flirting and Respect

(44:42) Consumerism in Relationships

||Q&A Section||

(46:58) "How does one manage intense lust that keeps dragging them backwards?"

(48:43) "Is that why relationships last longer when you have started from friends?"

(49:57) "How much would you rely on your intuition vs. Logic?"

(50:37) "How does one avoid isolation when all who were trusted been compromised by the narc?"

(51:46) "Do intense feelings of connectedness upon first meeting with someone indicate the beginnings of an unhealthy relationship?"

(54:12) "Should the female make the first move?"

(59:38) "Advice or references for up keeping intimacy in a long term relationship?"

(1:07:56) "What do I do with a compulsive need of contribution?"