Dedeker, Emily & Jase of the Multiamory Podcast share tips on creating boundaries and avoiding relationship pitfalls. They emphasize the importance of clear communication, provide a framework for resolving conflicts, and discuss using micro scripts to improve communication and break patterns. They also explore anxieties in non-monogamy and offer strategies for navigating anxious attachment.
Non-monogamy is becoming more mainstream, thanks to increased dialogue and acceptance.
Transitioning between relationship styles requires open communication, trust-building, and a willingness to experiment.
Boundaries are personal and enforceable by individuals, while agreements are mutual decisions to foster trust and accommodate preferences in non-monogamous relationships.
Deep dives
The Evolution of Non-Monogamy
Non-monogamy has come a long way in terms of societal acceptance. When the Multiamory podcast first started, there was a hesitancy to use real names and publicly discuss non-monogamous relationships. However, over the past nine years, there has been a significant shift, with more podcasts, celebrities, and cultural references embracing non-monogamy. People are now more comfortable sharing their experiences and identities without fear of judgment. This progress has been aided by the Gen Z generation, who challenge traditional relationship norms and believe in seeking alternative forms of connection. While there is still work to be done, this increased dialogue and acceptance show that non-monogamy is becoming more mainstream.
Navigating Relationship Transitions
Transitioning from one relationship style to another, such as going from swinging to a more polyamorous dynamic, can be challenging. It's important to communicate openly and take things slow, ensuring that both partners are on the same page. Recognizing that it's normal to feel a range of emotions, and being curious about the underlying reasons for those feelings, can help navigate the transition. Building trust and implementing tools like micro scripts, which provide shorthand ways to communicate and interrupt old patterns, can also be effective. Each relationship is unique, so it's important to give yourselves grace and be open to experimentation and growth.
The Power of Boundaries and Agreements
Boundaries and agreements play a crucial role in non-monogamous relationships. It's important to understand that boundaries are personal and enforceable solely by the individual. They are intended to protect oneself rather than dictate the actions of others. Agreements, on the other hand, are mutual decisions made collaboratively to establish behaviors that foster trust and accommodate each other's preferences. When conflicts arise, it's essential to approach them with curiosity and strive for mutual understanding. Regular relationship check-ins and the use of micro scripts can also help in navigating boundary-related discussions and maintaining healthy agreements.
The Importance of Building Trust
Trust is a fundamental pillar in non-monogamous relationships. In non-monogamy, partners often make independent choices that prioritize their individual interests. Building trust involves believing that even though partners are making choices that benefit themselves, they are also making choices that benefit the relationship as a whole. Trust is essential in combating feelings of possessiveness and uncertainty. Open communication and vulnerability can help address fears and insecurities. Taking things slow and understanding your partner's perspective are also important in fostering trust in non-monogamous dynamics.
The Shift of Non-Monogamy in Society
Non-monogamy has experienced a notable shift in societal acceptance. There is now more dialogue, visibility, and normalization of consensual non-monogamous relationships. Social media has played a significant role in allowing people to share their experiences and create more awareness. The younger generation, such as Gen Z, has shown a greater acceptance and curiosity towards alternative relationship styles. While challenges and misconceptions still exist, there is hope for increased understanding and acceptance as non-monogamy becomes more integrated into mainstream society.
In this episode, Kate & Liam speak with Dedeker, Emily & Jase of the Multiamory Podcast. They share information about creating healthy boundaries and avoiding common relationship pitfalls. To find out more about them, go to their website,,, https://www.multiamory.com/
