The Myth of Romantic Love

The myth of romantic love suggests that romantic relationships will fulfill all personal needs and lead to eternal happiness. However, statistics show that most relationships end in separation or are unhealthy and unhappy. The belief in this myth prevents individuals from cultivating the healthy and realistic love required for fulfilling relationships. Popular culture promotes the idea of a 'magical other' who will fill emotional voids and provide meaning in life, especially for those who lacked parental love in childhood. During the initial stages of a relationship, illusions and idealizations can lead to infatuation, but eventually, reality sets in, and faults and flaws become apparent. The pursuit of the magical other can lead to resentment, control, and manipulation in relationships. It is crucial to discard the myth of romantic love and focus on cultivating self-love as the foundation for meaningful relationships.