Swoon: Love Lessons with Julie and Gina 10 questions to ask yourself before having sex.
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Feb 14, 2022 Dive into essential questions to ponder before becoming intimate! Explore the nuances of enthusiastic consent versus responsive desire. Learn the importance of clear decision-making while navigating the complexities of attraction. Discover how to communicate boundaries early on. The hosts address feelings that arise post-encounter and the impact on existing relationships. They also discuss anticipating clumsy moments and adjusting expectations. Plus, the importance of mutual pleasure and skill is highlighted!
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Ask If You Enthusiastically Want It
- Do check whether you enthusiastically want to have sex before saying yes.
- If you’re responsive-desire oriented, try leaning in a bit to see if desire emerges before deciding.
Trust Your Decision-Making Clarity
- Do assess whether drugs, alcohol, or heartbreak are clouding your judgment.
- Be aware of why you’re deciding so you can avoid later shame or regret.
Boundaries Require Communication
- Notice that many partners won't know your boundaries unless you communicate them.
- Asking about turn-ons and turn-offs can be both informative and sexy.