Pattern Breaking: When You Want to Do Things Differently Than Your Parents Did

It is often difficult and painful to break parenting patterns that were harmful to us as children. But as Amy and Margaret explain using their own experiences, verified studies, and some slightly cultish Goop material, pattern breaking is entirely possible and may not be as hard as we fear.

In this episode, Amy and Margaret discuss:

• Behaviors versus patterns
• Ways to notice and change our own patterns
• What it means to be morally neutral

Links to resources mentioned in the episode:

• Karen Young for Hey Sigmund: Breaking the Cycle of Toxic Parenting – How to Silence Old Toxic Messages for Good
• "This Be The Verse" by Philip Larkin
• Robert Taibbi for Psychology Today: Breaking Old Patterns? Expect Psychological Withdrawal
• Goop Q&A with Liza Ingrasci, CEO of the Hoffman Institute
• Rough Draft by Katie Tur
• Join our Facebook group! (not a cult)

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