Job Search, Promotion, and Career Clarity: The Mid-Career GPS Podcast 328: Ask This Question To Reduce Holiday Drama & Honor Your Boundaries
Do holiday conversations, workplace tension, or family dynamics leave you emotionally drained and unsure how to respond? At mid-career, the pressure to stay composed, supportive, and “professional” can feel exhausting, especially when stress is already high in your job or career.
In this episode of The Mid-Career GPS Podcast, I introduce a simple but powerful communication tool called the Three H’s. With one clarifying question, you can stop guessing, set healthier boundaries, and respond with intention rather than frustration.
The Three H’s question is simple and direct:
Do you want me to hear you, help you, or hug you?
That single question creates clarity, consent, and emotional safety in conversations at work, at home, and everywhere in between.
I break down how each option works in real life and why this framework is especially valuable for mid-career professionals navigating leadership pressure, burnout, and complex relationships.
Mid-career professionals are often expected to manage emotions, solve problems, and stay composed, even when they feel overwhelmed themselves. This episode explores how the Three H’s can help you:
- De-escalate tense conversations without withdrawing or over-functioning
- Set boundaries around hot-button topics at work or with family
- Respond to dismissive or frustrating comments with calm confidence
- Exit conversations that do not respect your limits
- Advocate for your own needs without overexplaining or apologizing
If you manage people, this framework can also transform your leadership approach. Opening one-on-ones with the Three H’s reduces advice overload, builds trust, and helps your team feel genuinely supported.
Ask for What You Need Without Guilt
I flip the script and show you how to use the Three H’s to advocate for yourself. You can ask for a listening ear, targeted help, or comfort and connection. You will also learn why it is healthy to accept that not everyone is available to meet your needs at all times.
That realization alone can reduce resentment, stress, and emotional burnout during a demanding season of life and career.
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