The Apprenticeship Way with Marc Alan Schelske

4 Clues You Need Emotional Growth (TAW018)

Apr 9, 2019

Discover the four telling signs that might indicate emotional immaturity and a need for growth. From explosive reactions to irritability over minor issues, these clues reveal untended wounds. Explore how feeling perpetually 'fine' can mask deeper pain and why choosing solitude may hinder genuine connections. Delve into personal anecdotes highlighting the importance of recognizing emotional cues to foster healthier relationships and personal development. Emotional growth is essential for enhancing connections with ourselves and others.

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Emotional Disconnection Revealed

Marc Alan Schelske shares that friends found him emotionally disconnected, calling him a "pod person" who felt distant in relationships.
He initially felt fine but later saw these were clues of unprocessed pain and emotional immaturity undermining his life.

ADVICE

Watch for Emotional Overreactions

Notice if you have emotional outbursts that are disproportionate to the situation.
Step back and see if you invest huge emotional energy in small problems; this signals emotional immaturity.

ADVICE

Recognize Excessive Offense

Observe if you are easily offended by many small things and if people avoid stress around you.
Recognize constant offense as a clue that emotional wounds may need healing, even if outrage feels justified.

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Episode 018 – 4 Clues You Need Emotional Growth

I went through a major crash that was the result of emotional immaturity and brokenness. But it shouldn’t have come as a surprise. There were clues that I ignored.

Maybe some of these clues are in your life as well?

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Looking back on my life I can now see that there were clues that my inner life was a wreck. Emotional immaturity and untended wounds were doing damage, and I didn’t see it.
Do you see any of these clues present in your life?
- #1 – You are known for outbursts. You frequently over-react, blowing $1000 of emotional energy on a $5 problem.
- #2 – You are easily offended. Irritation is your constant companion, and even small things offend you. Some people walk on eggshells around you.
- #3 – You are always fine. Things that excite others do nothing for you. Sad or painful things don’t deeply impact you. You are rarely vulnerable.
- #4 – You hide behind solo activities. You often choose solo activities to avoid discomfort that comes up in the emotional connections of relationship.
If any of these show up frequently in your life, it may indicate that there are untended wounds that need healing, or emotional immaturity.
The more disconnected we are from our own emotions, the harder it will be is to connect emotionally with other people, and even with God.
You inner life is the wellspring from which every other part of your life flows.

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