(Bonus) Office Hours With Chris Messina

In this book, Alan Watts draws on Eastern philosophy and religion to argue that true security and peace can only be achieved by understanding and embracing the impermanence and insecurity of life. He critiques the modern quest for security and certainty, highlighting the futility of chasing moving goalposts such as financial success, stability, or escape from pain. Watts emphasizes the importance of living in the present moment, letting go of the past and future, and accepting the uncertainty of life to find true freedom and fulfillment.

In this book, Esther Perel explores the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, arguing that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor can be antithetical to erotic desire. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel uses case studies and lively discussions to demonstrate how more exciting, playful, and poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining independence, mystery, and the space between self and other to sustain desire.

Passionate Marriage offers practical techniques to help couples overcome emotional and sexual challenges, focusing on differentiation to strengthen individual identities and enhance marital intimacy. The book provides insights into maintaining passion and emotional fulfillment in committed relationships, drawing from Schnarch's extensive clinical experience and workshops.