It's Been a Minute What really counts as "cheating?"
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Aug 15, 2025 Kathryn Jezer-Morton, a writer for The Cut known for her insightful takes on relationships, dives deep into what really counts as cheating in today's world. She highlights how our paranoia about infidelity can actually harm connections. The conversation touches on the complexities of intimacy, the impact of technology on trust, and the importance of communication in modern dating. Kathryn also explores the societal pressures around vulnerability and emotional expression, offering a fresh perspective on the fears that haunt our love lives.
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Love As A Set Of Expectations
- Kathryn Jezer-Morton connects changing definitions of cheating to how we now define love and romance as behavioral expectations.
- Thinking of love as a set of expectations turns cheating into a perceived breach of contract rather than an act of passion.
Cheating Broadens Beyond Sex
- Emotional cheating and nonsexual behaviors have broadened public definitions of cheating.
- YouGov data shows many Americans equate flirting or strong emotional attachments with cheating.
The Limits Of Red Flag Culture
- Red flag culture frames relationship problems as neatly diagnosable and warranting immediate exits.
- Shannon Keating argues this creates a one-size-fits-all approach that ignores the messiness of human relationships.