Abdullah Oduro How to Choose a Wife in Islam - 5 Steps Every Man Must Take
Jun 21, 2025
The discussion kicks off with a hadith emphasizing the importance of selecting a righteous spouse. Intentional selection is crucial—common pitfalls in marriage choices are highlighted. Observing a woman's deen in action is essential, alongside leveraging social media to gauge her consistency. Investigating her reputation and family dynamics plays a key role. Insightful conversations about values, hobbies, and personal boundaries are recommended. Finally, Abdullah encourages honesty and the acceptance of imperfection while trusting in prayer for guidance.
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Verify Deen By Actions Not Words
- Observe a woman's deen through consistent actions like prayer, fasting, and modest dress rather than asking generic questions about religiosity.
- Use her online presence and public interactions to verify consistency and predict how she may model faith for your children.
Be A Detective About Reputation
- Investigate a prospective wife's reputation by asking people in her mosque, workplace, and community about her character.
- Seek perspectives from both men and women to form a balanced view of her consistency and conduct.
Assess Family Dynamics Early
- Learn family dynamics by asking about birth order, parental presence, and how she treats elders and siblings.
- Use these details to predict her expectations, conflict style, and parenting approach in marriage.