Focus on Marriage Podcast The Difference 3 Seconds Can Make
Aug 12, 2025
The podcast highlights the power of a simple three-second pause during marital conflicts, allowing spouses to regain control before reacting. Emotional responses are discussed, emphasizing the importance of managing feelings to prevent negative outbursts. Communication challenges are addressed, introducing concepts like 'Mount Foolish' to illustrate misunderstandings. There's a strong focus on active engagement and the impact of small, consistent efforts in improving relationships, alongside helpful resources and encouragement for couples navigating tough times.
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Use A Short Timeout To Regulate
- Step away and take a short timeout (15–20 minutes) when triggered to deescalate before speaking.
- Return regulated so you can think clearly and avoid reactive, regretful words.
Three Seconds Between Reaction And Response
- The difference between a reaction and a response is about three seconds; use that gap to choose wisely.
- Read your spouse beyond words because their whole day may be coming out in that moment.
Small Daily Changes Compound
- Make one small, consistent change each day (the penny-doubling idea) and let it compound over time.
- Focus on incremental wins like a loving note or choosing not to react.
