Mating Crisis: Why The Rate Of Single Men Looking For Dates Has Declined | William Costello PT 2

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Jul 6, 2023

William Costello, a behavioral expert and PhD student, explores the modern male dating landscape. He discusses the COVID-19 pandemic's impact on dating behaviors, contrasting men's newfound risk-taking with women's heightened caution. Delving into the incel community, he reveals their struggles and coping mechanisms while considering AI as a tool for healthily navigating dating. The conversation highlights the societal shifts reshaping relationships, alongside the potential of technology to improve social understanding and engagement.

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Modern Polygyny

Modern dating apps may be creating an effective polygyny, where few men have many partners.
This mirrors ancestral mating patterns but is exacerbated by technology.

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Birth Control & Childlessness

Birth control has shifted mating psychology, potentially contributing to involuntary childlessness.
Women may delay partnering, facing a squeezed timeframe for finding a suitable mate.

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Incel Identity

Some incels find appeal in victimhood and online communities rather than dating.
This provides them with camaraderie, a shared enemy, and a simplified worldview.

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William L. Shirer

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Welcome back! In part two of our eye-opening episode with behavioral expert, writer, researcher, and PhD student at the Evolutionary Psych Lab, William Costello, we're diving deeper into the fascinating world of modern male behavior.

In today’s episode we’re unraveling the effects of the COVID-19 pandemic on dating behaviors, highlighting the contrast between men's renewed risk-taking stance and women's escalated risk aversion.

Then, prepare to delve into the mind of the incel community. Gain insights into their societal outlook, their struggles, and the evident lack of constructive coping mechanisms.

Finally, we'll explore how incels are empowered by AI to actively and healthily participate in dating and mating market. Discover how tech can foster better cross-sex understanding and transform social engagements.

This isn’t your typical podcast episode - it's a journey into understanding societal shifts that are shaping our world, and by tuning in, you're gaining valuable insights to navigate your own life better.

So, are you ready to continue this journey with us? Hit that play button and let's dive in! And if you haven't already, be sure to subscribe for more empowering content and knowledge to help you level up your life!

William Costello Quotes:

“I can understand why an individual incel might elect to hunker down into victimhood identity and online worlds rather than engaging with the mating market they don’t have much faith in.”

“Incels are using their male typical psychology to try to not empathize with their female counterparts.”

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