463: What If Your Only New Year Goal Was to Let Go of the Shoulds?

I recently sat down to reflect on 2025, and I was honestly shocked by how much lighter my life feels now compared to just a few years ago. I'm not talking about having less to do. I'm talking about releasing the weight of expectations that never fit me in the first place. The guilt over my son's screen time, the pressure to have my spiritual life look a certain way, the belief that I had to maximize my income at all costs. When I started letting those shoulds go, something beautiful happened—I made room for so much more joy.

In this episode, I'm sharing specific examples of how I decluttered my motherhood in 2025 and what shifted when I gave myself permission to stop performing and start living. You'll also hear the first lesson from my Motherhood Decluttered audio course, which walks you through the process I used to create this kind of lightness and freedom in my own life.

In this episode, you'll learn:

✨ The exact shoulds I released in 2025 (and the joy I found when I let them go)

✨ How decluttering your internal "motherhood closet" creates space for what actually matters to you

✨ Why letting go of heavy expectations isn't about doing less but about making room for more of what brings you aliveIf you've been carrying shoulds that don't fit you anymore, this episode will help you see that you don't have to become a "better" mom in 2026. You just need to become a less burdened one.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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Related Episodes:

214: Simple Tips to Create New Habits in the New Year // BJ Fogg

411: Decluttering That Sticks: 3 Mindset Changes for Lasting Impact // Erica Layne

462: 3 Questions for the New Year

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