The Mate Preview, Pt. 13: Social Proof And Prestige (Social Status)
Aug 12, 2015
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Discover why women are more attracted to your prestige in a group than fame or money. Learn how good social skills make you more attractive and introduce you to more women. Find out short-term and long-term ways to improve your social proof and how to have good social skills as an introvert.
Women are more attracted to social status and prestige within a group than fame, money, or alpha male attitudes.
Improving social proof through good social skills and interaction with others is crucial for attracting women and expanding one's social circle.
Deep dives
Importance of Social Proof in Attracting Women
This episode of the podcast discusses chapter 11 of the book 'Mate, How to Become the Man Women Want.' The main idea is that the traditional notions of social status, such as fame, money, and domineering alpha male attitudes, are not as effective in attracting women as perceived. Instead, the concept of 'prestige' is introduced as a more attractive quality to women. Prestige is about adding value and contributing to a group, demonstrating expertise, skills, and knowledge. The episode emphasizes the importance of popularity within a social group and delivering value to attract attention. It also discusses the significance of social proof, which showcases an individual's ability to add value to others' lives and is seen as an indicator of potential value in a romantic relationship. Practical suggestions are offered, including joining social groups and classes, taking social jobs, and interacting with the people around to improve social proof.
Improving Social Proof and Displaying Popularity
The episode delves into ways to enhance social proof and display popularity within a social group. It emphasizes the importance of being outgoing and interacting with others, even for introverts, and highlights the misconception that introverts can't interact with people. The significance of having friends and hanging out with women is highlighted as means to improve social status and meet potential partners. The episode also discusses integrating friends into one's dating life, hosting parties and events, going on group dates, playing team sports, and even owning pets as ways to demonstrate social proof. The takeaway is for individuals to assess their social skills, step out of their comfort zone, and build new patterns of interaction to capitalize on their personality traits.
Key Takeaways and Personal Adaptation
The chapter stresses the importance of personal assessment in terms of social skills and the identification of comfort zones. It encourages individuals to explore interaction patterns that work for them and help overcome personal challenges such as social anxiety or introversion. The episode provides an example of overcoming introversion through giving talks at scientific conferences, which facilitates interaction with others who are impressed by the talk. It highlights the need for individuals to find similar situations that can help them overcome their specific social challenges. The chapter aims to equip individuals with the necessary tools to improve their social proof and transform their social lives to make them more attractive to potential partners.
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.
In Part 13 of The Mate Preview, Tucker and Dr. Miller explain why women in general are more attracted to your prestige in a group than they are to your fame, money, or an alpha male attitude. That is what most guys get wrong about social status.
Having good social skills not only makes you more attractive to women, but also introduces you to more women.
They also go over short-term and long-term ways to improve your social proof and how to be an introvert but still have good social skills.
