Ep 18: Trauma, Healing and Change with Ben May

You can find the New Normal Charity @tnncharity on Instagram. Website: https://www.thenewnormalcharity.org/

Ben also coaches men on developing empathy and changing the way they think, behave and react both in work and life. You can find him on Instagram @ldn_brbr or email ben@thenewnormalcharity.org

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Keywords

grief, trauma, identity, loss, support, relationships, parenthood, mental health, healing, self-discovery

Summary

In this conversation, Alex Trippier and Ben discuss the complexities of grief, trauma, and identity. They explore how personal experiences shape our understanding of loss and the importance of shared experiences in healing. Ben shares his journey through grief after losing his father and how it impacted his relationships and behavior. They also touch on the gendered responses to grief and the societal expectations placed on men. The discussion emphasizes the need for open communication and support in navigating grief and the ongoing journey of self-discovery and change.

Takeaways

Grief is a unique experience for everyone.
Time does not erase the pain of loss.
Shared experiences can foster connection and understanding.
Men often struggle to express their emotions.
Parenthood can change one's perspective on grief.
Trauma can shape our identities and behaviors.
It's important to seek support during difficult times.
Understanding different types of loss is crucial.
Communication is key in relationships affected by grief.
Self-discovery is an ongoing journey influenced by our past.

Titles

Navigating the Complexities of Grief
The Impact of Trauma on Identity

Sound bites

"I just want to feel normal again."
"Grief is a confusing thing."
"Men don't speak about things."

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Grief and the New Normal
37:30 The Scotch Egg Theory of Grief
46:12 The Complexity of Loss and Relationships
49:11 Gender Differences in Grief Responses
51:01 The Journey of Self-Discovery in Fatherhood
56:35 Understanding Addiction and Masculinity
01:01:19 Parenting and Personal Growth