The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast

How to Stop Living for Other People (ft. Ben Nemtin)

Nov 20, 2024

01:01:43

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In this enlightening discussion, Ben Nemtin, co-founder of The Buried Life and New York Times bestselling author, reveals how to rediscover your dreams buried under life's demands. He shares insights on breaking free from societal expectations, the power of accountability, and the transformative journey of pursuing authenticity. The conversation encourages listeners to confront their fears and engage in actionable steps towards their passions, emphasizing that personal fulfillment not only enriches one’s life but can also inspire others.

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The podcast emphasizes the significance of pursuing personal dreams instead of living for others, encouraging listeners to reclaim their true purpose.

Ben Nemtin shares how the fear of failure often inhibits individuals from chasing their dreams, ultimately leading to regret over unmet aspirations.

Practical strategies like writing down dreams and creating accountability systems are discussed as effective ways to unearth buried aspirations.

Deep dives

The Origin of The Buried Life

The concept of The Buried Life originated from a shared feeling of unfulfilled dreams among a group of friends who felt weighed down by the expectations of others. Inspired by an old English poem, they recognized that their aspirations were being consistently overshadowed by daily life. This realization fueled their desire to create a documentary, leading them to compile a list of things they wanted to accomplish and embark on a road trip to pursue those dreams. Their journey not only sought to help themselves but also aimed to inspire others by asking the poignant question: what do you want to do before you die?

Intro

2min

Unearthing Buried Dreams: A Journey of Self-Discovery

5min

Pursuing Authenticity and Personal Growth

17min

Recycling Relationships and Confronting Life's Challenges

5min

Navigating Modern Discontent and Authenticity

5min

The Power of Accountability in Personal Growth

2min

Pursuing Authentic Dreams

21min

The Ripple Effect of Pursuing Passion and Helping Others

5min

Have you ever felt like there’s more to life than the daily grind, like your dreams are buried under all the obligations and expectations life throws at you?

In this episode, we sit down with The Buried Life co-founder and New York Times bestselling author, Ben Nemtin, to explore why so many of us feel disconnected from our true purpose—and how to reclaim it.

For Ben, it all started as a group of friends chasing wild bucket-list dreams and helping strangers achieve their dreams too. In the process, they discovered what it means to give yourself permission to dream and then make those dreams a reality.

We dive deep into the psychology of fear, the power of accountability, and the surprising benefits of doing what you love—not just for yourself, but for everyone around you. We discuss why most people regret not living authentically, how to overcome the social and emotional barriers holding you back, and practical strategies for rediscovering your dreams, even if they’ve been buried for years.

If you’re looking for inspiration to take that first small step toward a life that feels truly yours, this episode will get you there.

Enjoy.

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Ben’s Stuff:

The Bucket List Journal by Ben Nemtin: https://www.amazon.com/Bucket-List-Journal-Achieve-Fulfilling/dp/B09VX2LMY2

The Buried Life (TV Show): https://www.bennemtin.com/tv-show/

The Buried Life (Poem): https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43585/the-buried-life

Ben’s Website: https://www.bennemtin.com Ben’s TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6Y7mfxEaco

Follow Ben:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/bennemtin

https://www.instagram.com/bennemtin