Making Positive Psychology Work

Do You Have a Positive Strategy for Gaslighting? with Dr. Robin Stern

Apr 23, 2021

Dr. Robin Stern, co-founder of the Yale Centre for Emotional Intelligence, discusses gaslighting in the workplace. She explains what gaslighting is, provides examples of its impact, and shares positive strategies to address it. Gaslighting chips away confidence, and she highlights signs to look out for and motivations behind gaslighting.

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Gaslighting in the workplace can involve constant changes in assignments and creating a narrative that undermines the target's competence or worthiness.

Recognizing signs of gaslighting, such as constantly second-guessing oneself and feeling confused, is crucial to understanding and addressing gaslighting.

Deep dives

Gaslighting: Manipulation and Psychological Abuse

Gaslighting is an insidious form of manipulation and psychological abuse where the gaslighter, usually in a position of power, sows seeds of doubt in their target's perception of reality. It is intended to make the person question their own perceptions, reality, and even their character. Gaslighting can happen in various relationships, including intimate partner relationships, families, and even in the workplace. At work, gaslighting can involve constant changes in assignments, denying previous instructions, and creating a narrative that undermines the target's competence or worthiness. Gaslighting can have devastating effects on one's motivation, self-confidence, decision-making abilities, and mental well-being.

Introduction

2min

Gaslighting in Workplaces

8min

The Impact of Gaslighting in the Workplace

17min

Expressing Gratitude and Well-being Practices

2min

Recommendations for Further Learning and Being Your Best Self at Work

2min

Expressions of Gratitude and Promotions

2min

Dr. Robin Stern is the co-founder and associate director for the Yale Centre for Emotional Intelligence and an associate research scientist at the Child Study Centre at Yale. She is a licensed psychoanalyst with 30 years of experience treating individuals, couples, and families, and also does consulting work with schools both nationally and across the globe, as well as with large corporations, including Facebook and Google on best practice, practices for integrating the principles of emotional intelligence into training, outreach, and product design.

In this week’s podcast, we explore what gaslighting is, how it can play out in our workplaces, and positive strategies we can employ when faced with it.

Connect with Dr. Robin Stern:

https://robinstern.com/

You’ll Learn:

[02:23] - Robin shares with us what gaslighting is.
[04:01] - Robin shares what gaslighting can look like at work.
[06:04] - Robin shares an example of gaslighting at work.
[09:49] - Robin shares the impact gaslighting has on people in the workplace.
[11:05] - Robin explains how gaslighting is something that builds up over time and chips away at your confidence.
[13:01] - Robin shares how we’re not born gaslighters and that this is something we learn.
[14:05] - Robin shares what motivates a person to gaslight another.
[16:59] - Robin shares the signs you’re experiencing gaslighting.
[19:72] - Robin shares positive strategies to use when experiencing gaslighting.
[21:40] - Robin shares preemptive strategies for tackling gaslighting.
[26:55] - Robin enters the lightning round.

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Until next time, take care! Thank you, Robin!

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Making Positive Psychology Work

Do You Have a Positive Strategy for Gaslighting? with Dr. Robin Stern

Episode guests

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

Gaslighting: Manipulation and Psychological Abuse

Recognizing Gaslighting: Signs and Phrases to Look Out For

Strategies for Dealing with Gaslighting

Remember Everything You Learn from Podcasts