The New Age Sage Podcast #120 - Ryan Moresby-White: Why Unhealed Boys Will Always RUIN Relationships
Aug 27, 2025
In this conversation, Ryan Moresby-White, a coach specializing in men's emotional healing, reveals how unresolved childhood trauma impacts adult relationships. He shares his journey from feeling emotionally disconnected to understanding the importance of healing the inner child. Topics include the cycles of abandonment, the necessity of grief for emotional maturity, and the role of a man as a safe presence in relationships. Ryan emphasizes that true strength lies in owning one’s vulnerabilities and reconnecting with the playful, curious aspects of oneself.
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Developmental Trauma Is Subtle But Foundational
- Ryan defines three trauma types: big-T, small-t, and developmental trauma from slow emotional neglect.
- Developmental trauma freezes a child's sense of self when caregivers lack attunement.
Childhood Took On Adult Burdens
- Ryan describes moving from South Africa to Australia and becoming his father's emotional support as a child.
- He watched his parents divorce and internalized a core belief that loved ones will leave him.
Success Masked An Unhealed Boy
- Ryan became a high-achieving adult driven by a little boy seeking approval and nervous-system nourishment.
- When his partner left at 25 he collapsed and realized the child, not the adult, was running his relationships.