Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 549 - What's Really Driving Your Love Life: The 8 Worldly Concerns
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Sep 30, 2025 Explore the eight worldly concerns that shape our love lives, from seeking pleasure and praise to avoiding pain and criticism. The hosts delve into how these concerns influence relationship choices, emphasizing the impact of social validation in the age of social media. They discuss personal reflections on navigating jealousy and fear, and introduce mindfulness practices to help listeners identify their triggers. Practical exercises and reminders about impermanence encourage ongoing reflection and growth in relationships.
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Eight Worldly Concerns Frame Behavior
- The eight worldly concerns are four things we chase and four we avoid, identified by the Buddha ~2,500 years ago.
- They provide a framework to see what unconsciously drives decisions in relationships and life.
Memorable Pairing Of The Eight Concerns
- The mnemonic pairs are pleasure/pain, loss/gain, praise/blame, fame/shame to remember the eight concerns.
- These pairs help surface both desires and fears shaping choices in relationships.
Short-Term Comfort vs Long-Term Health
- Pleasure vs. pain shapes whether we avoid conflict or face hard conversations for long-term gain.
- Overweighing short-term comfort often causes more suffering later in relationships.
