The Love Drive with Shaun Galanos Making Love Last with Dr. Robert Sternberg
Nov 12, 2019
Dr. Robert Sternberg, a Cornell University professor and esteemed author on love, shares his insights on making relationships last. He discusses his triangular theory of love, highlighting the roles of intimacy, passion, and commitment. Sternberg emphasizes the importance of clear definitions of love and mutual care over self-interest. He urges couples to proactively build and maintain their relationships, addressing deeper issues behind conflicts. The conversation also touches on parenting and realistically assessing when relationships are worth nurturing.
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Three Core Ingredients Of Love
- Love has three core components: intimacy, passion, and commitment.
- Mismatched emphasis across these makes long-term relationships hard.
Regularly Check Your Love Profile
- Test yourself and your partner periodically to check how your love triangles match.
- Use tune-ups to discuss divergence before it becomes a major problem.
Love Is A Story
- People tell love through narratives called 'stories' that shape expectations and behaviors.
- Matching stories (travel, fairy tale, business) predicts whether couples can coordinate under strain.
