End of Shame: Healing from P0rnography | 062

The subject of pornography is a subject that is considered taboo and shameful, and therefore rarely ever talked about publicly, especially among us shy Malaysians

Pornography is one of those problems in society that we KNOW is a major issue, but we never really want to talk about. Either it’s because 

🤔 We are ignorant of how harmful it truly is to society, Or, that 

🙈 We choose to be in denial and think “nah, not me, my family is not affected.. We’re FINE insha Allah”, or 

😟 If we are struggling with this ourselves, we feel a sense of shame, we consider this as our own personal struggle and therefore isolate ourselves from finding solutions

In this episode, brought to you in collaboration with the AWARE academy, we at The Barakah Effect would like to make a conscious effort to stop being in denial, and play our role towards being a solution to heal the ummah from pornography. We talk about

✅ Why should we discuss this subject? How pornography negatively impacts your productivity, your marriage, your iman, and society at large

✅ What causes pornography addiction? Why is it so addictive and why is it so difficult to quit? And, what makes it even worse now in the 21st century, compared to how it was in the past

✅ Solutions: How can we play our roles - as an individuals and as a society - to help overcome, prevent and heal our ummah from pornography?

This episode is also intended to instill a sense of optimism and hope. If you - or anyone you personally know - is currently facing this problem of addiction to pornography, we’re not here to condemn you. We are here to provide solutions. There is a way out. You are not alone. There are thousands out there who are also struggling with this, too, and, here’s the good news: on the bright side, there are also thousands of those out there who have successfully repented and quit their addiction to porn!

Please do share this episode with others, with at least one person, ESPECIALLY if you know of someone who is struggling with this addiction 

If you need any assistance or support, or have your own success story and would like to play a role to contribute, we would love to hear from you, please do reach and get in touch with us, insha Allah

Time stamps

0:00:00 Start

0:09:50 Part A: WHY talk about this topic? What's the big deal? Stop being in denial

0:13:57 The Islamic perspective

0:19:50 Dangeously Accessible: Your children are only one wrong Google search away from p0rn!

0:25:44 Halal intimacy and "s€x" in Islam

0:29:19 Endless novelty - How P0Rn pollutes the Fitrah

0:34:10 Imprinted in memory: how P0rn destroys your ibadah

0:35:38 Shocking: How P0Rn can lead one to kufur & abandoning Islam

0:39:54 Part B: CAUSES of P0RN Addiction

0:43:43 Poor S€X education and ignorance: encourages "learning" through P0RN

0:46:06 Understanding Dopamine: How P0RN hijacks your brain & destroys willpower

0:50:03 Protecting our children: S€X education the Need to upskill ourselves & take responsibility

0:54:19 Part C: SOLUTIONS - How to Heal our Ummah from P0RN

0:59:13 You MUST Seek Help

1:04:48 Joining Online Communities, e.g. Nofap

OTHER RESOURCES: 

AWARE Academy https://awareacademy.com.au 

Your Brain On Porn - latest research on effects of internet porn https://www.yourbrainonporn.com 

NoFap - Porn Addiction Recovery - https://nofap.com 

Reboot Nation community - https://rebootnation.org 

“Halal Intimacy from an Islamic Perspective” by Abdullateef Abdullahi - https://www.dakwahbookstore.com/product/halal-intimacy-dcb/