Lysa TerKeurst on Broken Trust, Blaming, and How to Move Forward- Episode 927
Oct 10, 2024
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In this insightful discussion, Lysa TerKeurst, a New York Times bestselling author, bravely tackles themes of broken trust and healing from deep betrayals. She shares her journey following painful friendship breakups and the end of her marriage, emphasizing the importance of surrendering expectations and embracing resilience. Lysa highlights how nature can facilitate healing and discusses the fragility of trust in relationships, encouraging listeners to cultivate safe connections while processing their own experiences of pain and forgiveness.
Lysa TerKeurst discusses her struggles with broken trust and the journey to healing described in her new book.
The episode emphasizes the necessity of therapy in processing betrayal and confronting personal emotional struggles for growth.
Listeners are encouraged to recognize the cyclical nature of healing and the importance of self-compassion when facing unresolved feelings.
Deep dives
The Power of Therapy for Healing
Therapy serves as an essential tool for processing personal trauma and broken trust. The conversation emphasizes that bringing light to the darker aspects of our lives can facilitate overcoming fears and fostering healing. Both speakers reflect on how therapy has profoundly changed their perspectives, highlighting the importance of addressing one's emotional struggles rather than ignoring them. This discussion encourages listeners to consider starting therapy, introducing BetterHelp as an accessible option for those seeking support.
Navigating Broken Trust
The episode delves deeply into the concept of trust and its impact on relationships, primarily focusing on Lisa Turkhurst's new book, 'I Want to Trust You but I Don’t.' Lisa shares her journey through significant betrayals, including painful breakups and the dissolution of her marriage, leading her to examine the cycle of distrust she has experienced. The discussion highlights how understanding and addressing broken trust is crucial for personal growth and relational health. Lisa’s message resonates with anyone who has faced betrayal, imparting lessons about moving forward and rebuilding trust.
Embracing Life's Challenges
Inspiring listeners to confront their fears, Lisa shares moments from her personal life that illustrate how she tackled feelings of distress and chaos after her marital struggles. She emphasizes that life's difficulties can be overwhelming, but they also present opportunities to make choices that reaffirm one's agency. During the conversation, Lisa recounts a humorous yet poignant moment of overcoming minor setbacks, like fixing an ice maker, to illustrate that personal victories contribute to broader healing. This narrative encapsulates the idea that transforming challenges into positive actions can lead to a more fulfilling approach to life.
The Dual Nature of Healing
The conversation underlines that healing from trauma is not a linear process but rather a cyclical journey where individuals might circle back to unresolved feelings. Both speakers reflect on how they, at times, resurface emotions related to previous pain, recognizing that it's a natural part of the healing process. By emphasizing the need for self-compassion, the episode invites listeners to understand that revisiting old wounds does not indicate failure but a re-encounter with the healing journey. They encourage acknowledging these emotions as pathways to deeper understanding and further growth.
Finding Trust Again in Relationships
Listeners are encouraged to consider the fragility of trust and the importance of safety in relationships while also recognizing that trust can be rebuilt. The discussion highlights that betrayal is prevalent in many relationships, yet individuals can maintain a deep sense of security and connection despite challenges. Lisa reminds the audience that while relationships inevitably hold risk, those who are committed to repair trust must offer consistent, believable behavior over time. This insight encourages a nuanced perspective on healing from betrayal—acknowledging pain while remaining open to the possibility of healthier future connections.
This is Lysa Terkeurst’s 4th time here on the podcast and she’s that friend to all of us who just isn’t afraid to talk about the real and hard things that she’s walked through and what God’s taught her through it. Her brand new book came out this week… it’s called I Want to Trust You, But I Don’t… so we’re going in on broken trust and what to do with it. After several painful friendship breakups, the death of her marriage and other devastating betrayals, Lysa realized she was caught in a cycle of distrust and this book is the journey to figuring out how to move forward from it.
I have no doubt there’s someone who’s broken your trust before (and maybe even recently), so you’re going to learn a ton from this book and this friend.
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