#140: If you've ever been told (or felt) you need to "be stricter" for classroom management success - listen to this.

We’re busting a big ol’ classroom management myth in this episode: that being kind, compassionate, and empathetic means you’re “too soft” to manage behaviour effectively.

Because I’m seeing it everywhere right now - especially from all the beautiful new teachers joining me inside The Behaviour Club - this feeling of, “Am I doing it wrong?” “Am I too nice?” “Do I need to start being strict to be taken seriously?”

Short answer? No.

Longer answer? Let’s talk about it.

This episode is a riffed, unfiltered reminder that you don’t need to ditch your warmth or change your personality to be respected in the classroom. And if you're walking into class bracing for impact, because the last thing that worked was yelling or snapping, you need to hear this one.

I’m giving you a front seat to my own story from when I started teaching (and was 3 years older than some of my students 🙃), the realisation that changed everything, and what you actually need to learn to manage behaviour without selling out who you are.

What you’ll learn:

• Why being kind and credible aren’t opposites (and how to be both)
• The truth behind “don’t smile until Easter” and why it failed me
• Why your teaching presence matters more than your personality
• How to balance warmth with boundaries (without burning out)
• The missing skillset that makes behaviour management sustainable

Resources mentioned:

• Learn more about the Behaviour Club: https://the-unteachables.com/tbc
  
  
• My episode on non-verbals & credible/approachable presence: #135: Is your teaching presence undermining your classroom management?

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RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT:

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• My book! It’s Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management
• The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp
• Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change'

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