Totally Booked with Zibby Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, LOVE THE TEEN YOU HAVE: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict into Connection
Dec 1, 2025
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist and parent coach, shares insights from her book that guides parents through the tumultuous teenage years. She explains why teens may seem like aliens, emphasizing the importance of curiosity over punishment. Learn how to communicate effectively without escalating conflicts and recognize underlying emotional needs. Ann-Louise also discusses the significance of teaching life skills and fostering independence while knowing when to seek professional help for deeper issues. Her personal stories of teenage rebellion add a relatable touch!
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A Curfew Incident Turned Conversation
- Ann-Louise caught her 15-year-old on the phone after curfew and chose to take the phone and talk the next day.
- The teen revealed sadness and the parent then offered support and negotiated future openness instead of immediate punishment.
Pause And Get Curious
- When teens misbehave, pause and get curious about the need behind the behavior instead of immediately punishing.
- Meet the underlying need (support, connection) and discuss consequences later when calmer.
Respond, Don't React
- Avoid reacting impulsively during emotional moments; instead, take a breath and choose to respond intentionally.
- Responding lets you think clearly, meet needs, and preserve trust so teens will come to you later.
