Exploring data-driven dating advice with a GRS-funded scientist discussing red pill beliefs, mate preferences, hypergamy, gender dynamics, career regrets, humor in mate selection, and evolutionary aspects of human behavior in relationships.
Men prioritize physical attractiveness in women, while women value men's success and resources in relationships.
Encouraging men to pursue excellence is seen as attractive to women and contributes to fulfilling relationships.
Career priorities can delay finding a partner and starting a family, posing challenges in relationship dynamics.
Gender stereotypes depicting men as success objects and women as beauty objects oversimplify individual preferences in relationships.
Understanding individual differences in dating dynamics is crucial to avoid broad generalizations and navigate societal pressures.
Deep dives
Men Care About Women's Bodies and Women Care About Men's Success
Men prioritizing women's physical attractiveness and women valuing men's success and resources is a common trend observed in both behavior and survey data. Women tend to emphasize qualities like ambition, education, and resources in men, while men place significant importance on physical attractiveness and relative youth in women.
Chasing Excellence and Complimenting Each Other
Encouraging men to chase excellence stems from the belief that men being successful is attractive to women and contributes to a fulfilling relationship. Maintaining competence and providing a stable foundation in a relationship is often seen as essential to women feeling secure and respected.
Career Focus and Relationship Timing
The issue of women focusing on their careers to the point where the timing for starting a family becomes a challenge is a real concern. Delaying the search for a partner due to career priorities can lead to difficulties in finding a suitable match and starting a family later in life.
Perception of Men and Women in Relationships
The perception of men as success objects to women and women as beauty objects to men captures a broad stereotype of societal expectations. While rooted in some truth about general preferences, it's important to acknowledge that individuals vary in their priorities and should not be reduced to solely these attributes in relationships.
Misconceptions in Gender Dynamics
Men and women's behaviors and preferences in relationships are discussed. The podcast addresses misconceptions such as women preferring to share high-value men and women having inflated egos in dating. Insights reveal that while some behaviors might exist, they are not universally representative of all women.
Challenges in Dating Expectations
The conversation delves into the challenges women face in the dating world. Points raised include women's expectations, societal influences, and the complexities of partner selection. The discussion highlights how individual experiences shape perceptions in dating dynamics.
Evaluating Gender Stereotypes
Gender stereotypes and societal pressures are scrutinized in the context of dating behavior. The podcast explores the impact of these stereotypes on relationships and decision-making in the modern dating landscape. Insights shed light on the importance of understanding individual differences and avoiding broad generalizations in gender dynamics.
Men's Behavior on Podcasts vs. OnlyFans Revenue
Men who engage in derogatory comments towards women on podcasts often contradict themselves by financially supporting these women on platforms like OnlyFans. Despite receiving hatred, women see an increase in their monthly earnings after appearing on such shows, leading to a controversial business model that relies on making individual women look foolish to generate viral content.
Standards and Peak Maturity for Men and Women
Debates arise on when men and women reach their peak desirability. While women are often considered most attractive in their 20s, some men argue that men peak later due to accomplishments and increased mate value. The discussion delves into the signaling aspects of dating standards and the importance of self-improvement for achieving desired outcomes later in life. The conversation navigates through social expectations, signaling theory, and differing timelines for peak desirability in men and women.
Background: I came across some clips Macken had on social media where he had some criticisms of manoswamp takes, and he reached out when I followed him on Twitter asking for a discussion on the topic. About: Macken Murphy is a GRS-funded scientist at the University of Melbourne. His public works on evolution have been praised by the BBC, the CBC, Booklist, Apple, the Press Association, and The New York Times, among others. Macken spoke for his class at BU's 2020 commencement, where he graduated magna cum laude as a Trustee Scholar from Kilachand Honors College, and completed an MSc at Oxford with the highest possible mark. He received an RI Civic Leadership Award for his volunteer work and a Segal Award for his service in the Americorps. Before academia, Macken was an amateur boxer, winning a New England championship by first-round KO and competing in the Golden Gloves twice.
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