If you could go back and give advice to your younger self, what would you say?

That’s the question I got recently from a young man at a live event, and it’s one that hit me hard. I realized that I'd give up every dollar, every luxury, just to relive that energy, that drive. The truth? Right now is the youngest and most powerful you’ll ever be again. Whether you’re 20 or 53, there’s no better time to start living fully, with focus and intention.

One of the biggest lessons I wish I’d learned earlier? Only control what you can. So much of my life I spent trying to control outcomes, people’s opinions, or circumstances. But focusing on what I couldn’t change drained my energy and stole my peace. Imagine the freedom if you could just let go of that need to control every little detail and focus solely on what’s in your hands—your actions, your attitude, your growth. That’s where the power lies.

In this episode, I dive into the importance of protecting your energy—what I call your vibrational frequency. The highest energy wins. The most successful people aren’t just the most skilled or the smartest; they know how to show up with full presence, clarity, and focus when it matters most. To reach that level, you’ve got to stay aligned with your purpose and keep the distractions, doubts, and energy-draining worries out of your way.

Finally, I talk about raising your standards, not just setting goals. Goals are great, but they come and go. Standards? They shape who you become. Decide what level you’re truly comfortable with in every area of your life—relationships, finances, fitness—and watch how that “thermostat setting” drives you to either rise or cool back down. You will never exceed what you think you deserve, so set that thermostat high and surround yourself with people who challenge you to stay there.

Key Takeaways:

Focus only on what you can control, and let go of the rest.
Protect your energy and show up with your best frequency.
Set and maintain high standards—don’t settle for less.
Surround yourself with people who push you to elevate.

This is your moment. Max out your life, kick some butt, and live so that, at the end, you’re proud of every single choice. God bless, and go all in.

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Prof. Jonathan Fortney, Professor of Astronomy & Astrophysics at the University of California, Santa Cruz