Drawing a Line Between Fundraiser and Donor

Ever felt like your donor relationships are turning into guilt trips?

After nearly 30 years in major gifts, I’ve seen how easy it is for the line between professionalism and friendship to blur.

One story still sticks with me: a fundraiser got so close to a donor, she couldn’t bring herself to ask for support. The result? The mission lost out.

Here’s the truth: 70% of donors say their relationship with the fundraiser influences their giving decisions. But when things get too personal, it can lead to guilt, hesitation, and even burnout. I’ve been there—and I know many of you have, too.

So, where should we draw the line? How do we build trust and connection—without sacrificing our mission or our own well-being?

If you’ve ever wrestled with these questions, you’re not alone. I just dropped a new episode of The Intentional Fundraiser podcast diving deep into this very topic. I share real stories, practical strategies, and tools you can use to keep your donor relationships professional and impactful.

Curious how to protect your role, your donors, and your organization—without losing your heart?

Listen to the latest episode and share it with your team. Let’s start a conversation that every nonprofit leader needs to have.

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