Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2641: Five Common Ways Couples Bicker And Fuss - And Five Strategies to Stop by Dr. Margaret Rutherford on Building Trust
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Jun 29, 2025 Explore the hidden roots of couple conflicts—often tied to trust and vulnerability. Discover five common patterns of bickering that can harm relationships. Gain insights into how to transform these arguments into opportunities for deeper connection. Strategies for enhancing gratitude and communication are highlighted, emphasizing empathy as a key to constructive dialogue. The importance of recognizing harmful behaviors, like contempt, is underscored to help couples build stronger partnerships.
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Root Causes of Couple Conflicts
- Common couple fights stem from deeper emotional needs like trust, gratitude, and vulnerability.
- Bickering often masks unresolved issues that damage the relationship if left unaddressed.
Silent Treatment Harms Relationships
- Silent treatment or stonewalling worsens conflicts and predicts relationship failure.
- Open communication is essential despite emotional discomfort during fights.
Gratitude Reduces Scorekeeping
- Scorekeeping about chores or effort leads to resentment and lack of gratitude.
- Expressing appreciation reduces bickering about workload in relationships.
