shame series part 2: when toxic shame becomes who you are

This is part two in a multi-episode series aimed at helping you alchemize and transmute your toxic shame.What is this sneaky, yet destructive thing called toxic shame, and could it be the root cause of our continued suffering and emotional dysregulation? Toxic shame lies at the heart of most self-sabotaging behaviors that keep us feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected from others. Signs of internalized toxic shame can manifest in various ways and differ from person to person. Persistent feelings of unworthiness, negative self-talk, perfectionism, fear of vulnerability and intimacy, difficulty setting boundaries, chronic self-consciousness, avoidant behaviors, negative body image, and emotional instability can all be indicators of toxic shame.

Check out the time stamps below for a more detailed description of the topics covered in this episode: 

00:00 – 05:56: Reflections from part one

05:56 – 11:06: Why discuss toxic shame? 

11:06 – 16:50: Shame and guilt in neurosis 

16:50 – 28:52: How childhood shame shapes adult identity

28:52 – 33:03: Understanding traumatic shame and abandonment

33:03 – 37:47: How toxic shame disconnects and freezes you out from your own needs and desires

37:47 – 46:42: How self-shaming = self-alienation

46:42 – 49:02: Toxic shame as the core of codependency

49:02 – 52:18: Toxic shame as related to BPD or ‘borderline personality disorder’ 

52:18 – 59:19: The role of toxic shame in addiction 

59:19 – 01:10:11: How are guilt and toxic shame related? 

PREMIUM | 01:10:19 – 01:37:32: My Stupid Walk for My Stupid Mental Health – “Out of My Head and Into My Body”

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The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.

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