Philosophies for Life 89: 5 Ways to Stop Destroying Everything You Love - Carl Jung (Jungian Philosophy)
Jun 26, 2025
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In this podcast, we will be talking about 5 ways to stop destroying everything you love according to the philosophy of Carl Jung. Carl Jung's psychology is called analytical psychology and his philosophy is dubbed as “Jungian philosophy”. Jung’s most famous theory is ‘the individuation process.’
Carl Jung was a Swiss psychiatrist and psychologist who believed that most of our suffering doesn’t come from what happens to us… but from what lies hidden within us. One of Jung’s most powerful insights was this: We often sabotage the very things we long for. Love. Intimacy. Peace. Success. When something meaningful enters our lives, instead of embracing it, we ghost. We pick fights. We shut down. But why do we destroy what we care about most? Maybe because deep down, we don’t believe we deserve it. Or maybe because a part of us is terrified that it won’t last. Or maybe — and this is the hardest to face — something beautiful touches a part of us we’ve worked so hard to bury… and that’s unbearable. So we push it away before it can leave us. Jung believed these patterns aren’t random. They come from deep inner wounds — parts of ourselves we’ve rejected, hidden, or never even looked at. And our pain doesn’t vanish when we ignore it. It just finds another way to express itself — in self-sabotage, anxiety, depression, or broken relationships. We start to tell ourselves, “I’m just unlucky in love.” But maybe the truth is that something inside us is quietly afraid of love. We say, “I just can’t seem to find peace.” But maybe peace would force us to sit with feelings we’ve spent years running from. Jung believed that healing begins when we stop blaming the world outside and start turning inward. It’s not an easy journey. Indeed it means facing the parts of ourselves we’ve exiled. But it’s the only way to stop the cycle of destroying what we love — and start learning how to hold it. So in this video, we’ll answer the question “Why do we destroy everything we love?” and more importantly, “How can we stop?” using the wisdom of Carl Jung.
So here are 5 ways to stop destroying everything you love according to the philosophy of Carl Jung-
01. Recognize the Pattern Without Judgment
02. Meet Your Shadow
03. Befriend your Inner Saboteur
04. Embrace your Anima or Animus
05. Integrate Through Conscious Action
I hope you enjoyed watching the video and hope that this wisdom on how to stop destroying everything you love using Jungian Archetypes according to the philosophy of Carl Jung, will be helpful in your life.
Carl Jung, together with Sigmund Freud and Alfred Adler, is one of the 3 founders of psychoanalysis which is a set of psychological theories and methods aiming to release repressed emotions and experiences - in other words, to make the unconscious conscious. Jung was born in Switzerland in 1875 and died in 1961, leaving behind great works in the fields of psychiatry, anthropology, archaeology, literature, philosophy, psychology and religious studies. Jung had Freud as a mentor for a good part of his career but later he departed from him. This division was painful for Jung and it led him to found his own school of psychology, called analytical psychology as a comprehensive system separate from psychoanalysis. If classical psychoanalysis focuses on the patient’s past, as early experiences are very important in personality development, analytical psychology primarily focuses on the present, on mythology, folklore, and cultural experiences, to try to understand human consciousness. One of the most important ideas of analytical psychology which Jung founded is the process of individuation, which is the process of finding the self - something Jung considered an important task in human development. While he did not formulate a systematic philosophy, he is nonetheless considered a sophisticated philosopher - his school of thought dubbed “Jungian philosophy”. Its concepts can apply to many topics covered in the humanities and the social sciences. A good part of his work was published after his death and indeed there are still some articles written by him that to this day have yet to be published. Some of his most important books are: “Psychology of the Unconscious”, “Man and His Symbols”, “The Archetypes and The Collective Unconscious”, “Modern Man In Search of a Soul”, “The Psychology of the Transference”, “Memories, Dreams, Thoughts”, and “The Relations Between the Ego and the Unconscious”. Besides being a great writer and a researcher, he was also an artist, a craftsman and even a builder. His contribution is enormous and there is a great deal we can learn from his works.
Carl Jung was a Swiss psychiatrist and psychologist who believed that most of our suffering doesn’t come from what happens to us… but from what lies hidden within us. One of Jung’s most powerful insights was this: We often sabotage the very things we long for. Love. Intimacy. Peace. Success. When something meaningful enters our lives, instead of embracing it, we ghost. We pick fights. We shut down. But why do we destroy what we care about most? Maybe because deep down, we don’t believe we deserve it. Or maybe because a part of us is terrified that it won’t last. Or maybe — and this is the hardest to face — something beautiful touches a part of us we’ve worked so hard to bury… and that’s unbearable. So we push it away before it can leave us. Jung believed these patterns aren’t random. They come from deep inner wounds — parts of ourselves we’ve rejected, hidden, or never even looked at. And our pain doesn’t vanish when we ignore it. It just finds another way to express itself — in self-sabotage, anxiety, depression, or broken relationships. We start to tell ourselves, “I’m just unlucky in love.” But maybe the truth is that something inside us is quietly afraid of love. We say, “I just can’t seem to find peace.” But maybe peace would force us to sit with feelings we’ve spent years running from. Jung believed that healing begins when we stop blaming the world outside and start turning inward. It’s not an easy journey. Indeed it means facing the parts of ourselves we’ve exiled. But it’s the only way to stop the cycle of destroying what we love — and start learning how to hold it. So in this video, we’ll answer the question “Why do we destroy everything we love?” and more importantly, “How can we stop?” using the wisdom of Carl Jung.
So here are 5 ways to stop destroying everything you love according to the philosophy of Carl Jung-
01. Recognize the Pattern Without Judgment
02. Meet Your Shadow
03. Befriend your Inner Saboteur
04. Embrace your Anima or Animus
05. Integrate Through Conscious Action
I hope you enjoyed watching the video and hope that this wisdom on how to stop destroying everything you love using Jungian Archetypes according to the philosophy of Carl Jung, will be helpful in your life.
Carl Jung, together with Sigmund Freud and Alfred Adler, is one of the 3 founders of psychoanalysis which is a set of psychological theories and methods aiming to release repressed emotions and experiences - in other words, to make the unconscious conscious. Jung was born in Switzerland in 1875 and died in 1961, leaving behind great works in the fields of psychiatry, anthropology, archaeology, literature, philosophy, psychology and religious studies. Jung had Freud as a mentor for a good part of his career but later he departed from him. This division was painful for Jung and it led him to found his own school of psychology, called analytical psychology as a comprehensive system separate from psychoanalysis. If classical psychoanalysis focuses on the patient’s past, as early experiences are very important in personality development, analytical psychology primarily focuses on the present, on mythology, folklore, and cultural experiences, to try to understand human consciousness. One of the most important ideas of analytical psychology which Jung founded is the process of individuation, which is the process of finding the self - something Jung considered an important task in human development. While he did not formulate a systematic philosophy, he is nonetheless considered a sophisticated philosopher - his school of thought dubbed “Jungian philosophy”. Its concepts can apply to many topics covered in the humanities and the social sciences. A good part of his work was published after his death and indeed there are still some articles written by him that to this day have yet to be published. Some of his most important books are: “Psychology of the Unconscious”, “Man and His Symbols”, “The Archetypes and The Collective Unconscious”, “Modern Man In Search of a Soul”, “The Psychology of the Transference”, “Memories, Dreams, Thoughts”, and “The Relations Between the Ego and the Unconscious”. Besides being a great writer and a researcher, he was also an artist, a craftsman and even a builder. His contribution is enormous and there is a great deal we can learn from his works.