Finding Your Why - Anxiety Course Day 1

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Jul 28, 2023

This podcast focuses on the impact of anxiety and the importance of facing it. It emphasizes the need to learn new skills in close relationships and highlights how embracing anxiety can lead to confidence and motivation. The podcast explores various strategies people use to avoid anxiety and teaches skills to manage and tolerate it. It also discusses the importance of shifting focus towards what we desire instead of what we want to avoid.

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INSIGHT

Avoid Shrinking Life to Escape Anxiety

Setting the goal to feel less anxious shrinks your life and worsens anxiety.
Avoiding anxiety leads to cutting important activities and relationships from your life.

ANECDOTE

Anxiety and Facing Challenges

Researchers interviewed anxious eighth graders trying out for plays and sports.
Those facing anxiety to pursue goals tried out, others avoided it to stop anxiety.

INSIGHT

Relationship, Not Level, Defines Anxiety

Anxiety levels were similar in both groups, but attitudes differed.
Choosing to face anxiety builds confidence and encourages repeated engagement.

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Many people just want their anxiety to go away. They just don’t want to feel it. They imagine that if they didn’t feel anxious, their lives would be so much better and so they set that as their goal. “My goal is to not feel so anxious”. But when your goal is to feel less of something, you essentially have to cut something out of your life, and the problem with that is that your world shrinks, it becomes more miserable, and then your anxiety actually grows.

The only way to make your anxiety go away completely is to avoid the things you care about in life. Just like those kids who decided to not audition, if your only goal is to “feel less” to feel less sad, to feel less stress, then you’ll end up shrinking your life away.

Instead, in this course I’m going to teach you how to get better at feeling. Yes, your anxiety will most likely decrease. But way more importantly, the goal of this course is to make your life awesome again. To fill your life with the things you care about- the people and experiences that you’ve cut out, the dreams and accomplishments that you’re afraid to try, to bring richness and joy back to your day instead of worry and fear.

The difference between anxiety and an anxiety disorder is not severity, it’s how your response impacts your functioning.

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