DREAM THINK DO I Motivation, Encouragement & Strategy 348: 4 Ways to Design a Dream Date!
Valentine’s day is right around the corner… so today’s subject is CRITICAL! And hey… it’s always good to find ways to inject some extra romance into a date. The good news is… it’s a lot easier than you might think! And whether it’s early in your relationship… or you’ve been together for a while (my bride and I have been married for 29 years!!!)... you can use these strategies to bust out of the norm, and take a ho-hum date to “dream date” status! We’re going to get you real-world strategies that won’t break the bank and won’t involve a two-week trip to Fiji! You’ll be able to apply these concepts and have more romance, connection, AND fun! So let’s get to this!
RELATED DREAM THINK DO EPISODES:
Melissa and I talked about the 5 Love Languages in www.mitchmatthews.com/214
3 Keys to Breaking Free from the Past with Travis Crutcher: www.mitchmatthews.com/344
"Surprised By Prayer" - Another interview with my bride Melissa: www.mitchmatthews.com/207
RESOURCES:
5 Love Languages:
You can find out more at: Discover Your Love Language - The 5 Love Languages®: (www.5lovelanguages.com)
The FIVE Love Languages are:
- Quality Time
- Words of affirmation
- Physical Touch
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
Grab Mitch’s game: “Q Dates” at www.mitchmatthews.com/store
STEPS:
- Know YOUR Primary Love Languages
- Know your SIGNIFICANT OTHER'S Primary Love Languages
- Plan THIS date... around your SIGNIFICANT OTHER’S LOVE LANGUAGES
BONUS TIP 1: Create a Mixtape!
Playlist - Mixtape!!!
Put a playlist together of songs that mean something to you as a couple!
Use Apple... Spotify… or put a literal mixtape together!
Examples from “Our History” Playlist:
- “Wonderful Tonight” by Eric Clapton
- “In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel
- “I will always love you” by Whitney Houston
- “Crazy Love” by Van Morrison
- “I can't help falling in love with you” by UB40
- “My One and Only” by John Coltrane and Johnny Hartman
Other romantic examples (you’re welcome):
- “At Last” by Etta James
- “I want you back” by Colbie Caillat
- “I'd love you all over again” by Alan Jackson
- “I won't give up” Jason Mraz
BONUS TIP 2: Ask and then REALLY LISTEN!!!
Grab Mitch’s game: “Q Dates” at www.mitchmatthews.com/store
Conversation Starter Questions:
Complete the following sentences:
- My favorite class in high school was _________? (Why?)
- A perfect Saturday morning is when I get to ______________________.
- One of my favorite things about my week is when I ________________.
- One of my favorite TV shows from my childhood was ______________. (Why?)
- My favorite season of the year is ____________. (Why?)
Other questions:
- If you could meet any celebrity, who would you want to meet and why?
- If you could have a personal assistant do one thing for you, what would you have them do?
- If you could instantly learn how to play an instrument, which instrument would you want to be able to play? Where would you want to perform?
- If you could take a trip anywhere in the world (cost is not an issue), where would you want to go and why?
BONUS TIP 3: Be a Tourist:
My friend and coaching client, Lisa Even (www.EvenConnection.com) suggests giving yourself permission to be a “Tourist” in your own town. Try things you haven't tried. Go somewhere you haven't gone. Be willing to risk looking like a “tourist” to see something for the first time. And/or to see something you’ve seen a hundred times… through new eyes!
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MINUTE BY MINUTE:
- 0:02 A new topic for Dream Think Do
- 2:58 Let’s start planning your next dream date
- 7:50 Focus on romance even if you’re busy
- 13:24 One resource every couple needs
- 19:10 Date night example from Mitch and Mel
- 26:32 Having fun with acts of service
- 28:21 Mitch’s romance playlist
- 34:30 Shout-outs! Did you hear your name?
- 37:53 Ways to love your significant others
- 43:11 Little things can make every day better
- 46:00 What’s coming up next on Dream Think Do
I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU!
Leave a comment and let me know what stood out to you from this episode. More importantly, let us know a favorite way to take a date to the next level? BIG or small… what’s some of YOUR special sauce? I can’t wait to hear from you!
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