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On today's ep I'm interviewing Fred Luskin. Fred Luskin, Ph.D. is the author of Forgive for Good and one of the world's leading researchers and teachers on the subject of forgiveness. He is the director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, a series of research projects that investigate forgiveness methods.

We talk about the impact of forgiveness on mental health, the importance of setting boundaries and challenging unenforceable rules, the need for gratitude and positive intention in the forgiveness process.

RECCS OF THE WEEK

✨ Fred’s book Forgive for Good

✨ Fred’s book Forgive for Love

✨ How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable about Anything

✨ The Intention App: Train Your Brain For Happiness | The Ultimate Guide to Stop Overthinking (Part One)

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction

00:26 The Benefits of Forgiveness

01:26 Forgiveness as a Mental Health Tool

02:23 The Impact of Forgiveness on the Nervous System

03:21 Understanding Forgiveness

04:18 Misconceptions about Forgiveness

05:14 Forgiveness as Making Peace with Your Life

06:14 Forgiveness as a Lifestyle

07:12 Unenforceable Rules and Boundaries

09:08 Resentment and Boundaries

13:31 Challenging Unenforceable Rules

15:27 The Addictive Quality of Anger

16:54 Constructive and Destructive Anger

19:47 The Role of Venting

22:05 Expressing Anger and Moving towards Forgiveness

23:54 The Power of Gratitude in Forgiveness

27:45 Self-Forgiveness and Forgiveness for Others

31:08 The Impact of Gratitude

33:35 Becoming a Hero in Your Forgiveness Story

36:59 The Importance of Positive Intention in Forgiveness

39:46 Starting the Forgiveness Journey

43:04 Dealing with Rumination

45:54 Recommendations and Mini Moves

24 Question Party People: Matt Helders of Arctic Monkeys