94: Expectations and the Spectrum from Disappointment to Fulfillment

Expectations and the Spectrum from Disappointment to Fulfillment

I have been disappointed in myself many times when I failed to make it out to a cafe patio downtown to read when I've intended to. I finally made it there last week and channeled a whole download about disappointment when I got home! 

I was drawn to look in the dictionary and thesaurus for clear definitions and an understanding of what it means. In doing so, I learned that the opposite of disappointment is fulfillment, or being pleased. In the dictionary, there was a separate meaning to "fulfill" and "please" oneself. This distinction was profound to me. Our responsibility to ourselves does not depend on the fulfillment of others.

I talk about how expectations and assumptions are the source for a lot of disappointment. Clarity and communication are the key to avoiding unnecessary pain. You can go back to my episode on The Four Agreements if you want to revisit some of these themes in more depth!

Ultimately, checking in with yourself about whether it is a capacity issue or a priority issue can help to determine why you are disappointing yourself or others. In relationships, if you feel that you have showed up to your capacity, then it may be that the other person has not communicated their expectations or that there is an incompatibility. 

Overall, I want to remind you that you can always try again. Disappointment is a sign that there is something you hope to achieve and can show you what is important to you. Having realistic expectations leaves space for you to be delightfully surprised when they are surpassed!

I will be doing a 3 episode series on the book The War of Art by Steven Pressfield in the coming weeks to talk about overcoming resistance in creative endeavors of all kinds!

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